Category Archives: Self help

Deal & let go.

Anxiety or anger…. deal with it, dont stack in on the piles of not dealt shit, 

Deal with it, feel it, be drained, and then let go.


That’s the process.

There’s no shortcut to this.

Avoiding it and withstanding it, or ignoring it only results in you accumulating your problems for a bigger explosion .


Deal now. Let go. Reap the benefits of courage and a braver self tomorrow .


You are going to be fine. 

You can do this.

You aren’t alone.

There’s alot of hope.

There’s more to life.

There’s more to you.

You are capable of so much more.

I believe in you.

Hey, smile toughiee, let’s deal and become unstoppable .

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Girl you got the fire.


Oh! I DEFINITELY DO.

😊😊

No I’m not gonna say “keep your head high girl and blah !” Let’s get this straight. 

“GIRL IF YOU REALLY WANT SOMETHING, work your ass off , work so hard, that ‘luck’ is not a word in your diction, your lifestyle is not about fate and good fortune. Earn your life and live it. Slay your way every day, even in baggy clothes and no mascara, because you are YOUR OWN QUEEN . BELIEVE IN YOUR WORTH, that no one can define you , only you can be your own definition. Love yourself so much, that no one can let the fire within die. Make mistakes. Make tons of them. Because that’s how you will learn your way out. Let people talk, jeez just let them, they need the gossip to thrive. Don’t let that bother you. Stress is caused by giving a damn. No one changes you without your consent. Get this right in your blood. NO ONE CHANGES THE ESSENCE OF YOU. NO ONE. You can keep your head all around the world, wrap it in your arms, but so long you are breathing, make sure you nurture kindness to yourself as well as around. Be brave, and determined. It’s okay to feel lost, and not know the tomorrow. Uncertainty is the key cause of anxiety. Everything will be fine. Even if not. No queen backs down. Fight my warrior. Fight and stand tall. Fight and work hard. Fight and make it happen. Chase your dreams, breathe in happiness, create your peace, and learn the art to not give a damn about tons of things that are is unwanted noise in your vibration. VIBRATE HIGH. SPREAD GOOD VIBES. And at the end of the day if you can sleep with a conscious that screams “Girl you did right. And tomorrow will be even more fantastic. Now let’s go relive those crazy dreams.” You are doing it right. 

Hustle love! Hustle. -Leandra 

#leee.vibes

A take on “NOW”

For a long time I’ve been contemplating on how I feel about my journey so far. And to be honest some patches did make me want to not weigh the good. 

But had life not been a triggering rockety walk , I’d have not found what I’m capable of..

“Right here. This moment ” , has come to mean alot to me. “NOW” holds no regrets of the past or worries of the future. NOW is a moment I have here with me. That deserves my unbiased attention. Let me nurse my time in the present, to work on every aspect of me , so I can be that person I have longed to be -UNSTOPPABLE , INDEPENDENT , GROUNDED , MINDFUL and CONTENT .

NOW is where I know family cannot be traded for wealth. Love has no calculator. Self respect has no limits. And Self love is the best gift I can bless myself with.

The more you become aware of the person you are, the more accepting you are of your flaws and fortes, the more energy you draw from the universe, to attract the best version of you. 

Nah! You can’t just sit there and say “aabra kadabra … and life will award you with a magnified wellbeing”. Work. Work on yourself, for yourself, by yourself.

Build yourself. EMPOWER yourself. UPLIFT yourself. BE your own motivation. BE YOUR OWN HERO. BE YOUR OWN MASTER. 

And always love to be a work in process..

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. ……………… I had written on the law of attraction ages back… maybe 2014.. on my blog… I’ll have to sweep through it again though. ……………. _______________________________________

So vibe with me …

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#16 Her_thoughts 

​Shush now..

There’s too much noise,

In my head

Or is it your voice?


Wait! who are you ?

I asked the space 

around my fingers 

that stared ahead,

greeted with silence yet again,

But somehow 

this time felt like 

I’m home 

peaceful sans  pain. 

-Leandra .R.

#letsthrive 

#newseries

#newart

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#newdreams

#newhorizons

#extendedlimits

#greaterjoy

#simplerthoughts

#echoingmyvibration

#justvibe

#leeevibes

Dear Miss 24,

Dear Miss 24,

As frightening as this phase in the unknown is, and let’s not forget the increasing societal pressures of things I’d rather not delve into at the moment,

Take a breath. Stay calm.
Saying aloud that you’ve already grown past two decades, is tough if you make it feel so.

Age is what but just a number that will remind you how much in experience and maturity you have grown. Let it not bother you because it bothers the society around. 

Let’s accept the fact that you are here, right this moment, right where you are planted to grow or to bloom, to sprout or to remain still.
Be still in this moment, Love, for life can be as complicated as you make it. 

Even though you sometimes overthink, know that everything shall pass. Someday you won’t remember what bothered you in the yesters. 

And tomorrow’s worries have never made your day any brighter.
How about you focus on the goals on your checklist?

There’s lots to do, lots to achieve, and such exciting places to be.
It’s not a storm anymore , beloved. 

It’s life. And dont make it a battlefield 

until your sole focus is victory. 

Live life in the now, the present, however tough that may seem.
You don’t have to feel obliged to be good and go out of your way, when you know very well, you still have to learn to say ‘No’, try to figure out how to deal with the negativity that follows your refusals. 

Also note those who turn bitter when you say no , and you know you aren’t wrong to do so, then do not fall prey to fake emotional torments, but stand by yourself, you deserve to make your own decisions, and ought to let go of people who stick by you for want of something that degrades you and your self esteem. If they stick to you regardless, there’s no ulterior motive there, be not afraid to vibe.
Sometimes it’s how you treat yourself that matters more than how anyone around will treat you.
Self love my dear soul, self love will help redeem the scars of the many “I am not enoughs” your mind is filled with.
For now, as you still embark on a journey to inspire, 

to create something with your fire and to grab those goals you’ve always dreamt of, let’s ensure your soul never ever tires.
Your’s always,

Leandra.

Do not tolerate body shaming.

I’m a pear shaped body with a soul that is garden to kindness and happy vibes. But very often I am also a victim of body shaming and (skin ) discrimination. Like people look at me and pity how I look, my body, or my skin, they feel annoyed and make me feel like I’m a disgrace sometimes. Just because I’ve got some undisguised layers of fat or muscle, which in their opinion isn’t the right way I should be. 

Here’s what I have to say to you : 

Someone told me today,

that my curves are what makes me who I am.

And not to pay heed to criticism I face on a day to day basis.
Even though she said the West craves for a body like mine, I somewhere hoped that perhaps if I was in the West , I’d not feel completely alien sometimes.
Body shaming is downright degrading people !
It took me longer to come to terms with what I am and accept myself at that. Self love is tough when your opinions get in the way. It’s a journey that never ends. And I’m on mine. I will not tolerate your blows to bruise my soul.
My worth can never be assessed based on  fake pathetic  beauty standards and catastrophic world benchmarks.
I’m fine being me. Imperfect as you say, flawless as I feel,

tinted on my edges and excited about my dreams.
If you have something kind and good , I’m all ears. 

But again, a non appreciative tongue always bites you back.
Don’t weigh your judgemental opinions over the sensitivity of others. Be human enough to let them live in their own space. 

If you have a problem, change your direction. 

Do not be a “knowitall” giving unwanted advices and harsh criticism when not needed.
If you know me in person, you’ll know for a fact I have a few friends that I feel my vibration with. The lesser, the better. 

I’ll be kind and good to you, so long it is reverted back with the same equilibrium.
If not, my silence is your guest.
So dear everybody being the victims of body shaming, love yourself so highly that the petty sly opinions of people , who probably eat bitter-gourds and venomous snakes the whole day, never mess with your positive vibes. 

Slay your way your day ,belle !
Ciao Adios , I’m done .😉 #leeevibes
#rantmodeon #inamomentthing

Her love.

Her love was an ocean,

serene, gushing, trembling, rushing, 

Her love was incapable 

of sensing wrong from right,

Her love was uncanny

unconditional, her heart open to uncompensable smites,

Her love was laughter in those drastic storms,

Her love was lusting for understanding deep and warm,

Her love was compassion, endless chances 

to righten wrong ,

Her love was the very poison,

that squelched her  & cornered her into abjection.

And yet, when all failed her,

and she ameliorated from the overwhelming clamor,

Her love sustained & renewed her soul’s armour.

Her love which sought to go directions , all went,

now is seeking ways to make amends,

coming back to what was once empty,

Rustling inside her , like a spring of hustling confetti.