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Zamplification !!!

to Zamplify

means : to have the zest to amplify your being.

and Zamplification is simply the zesty or enthusiastic process to amplify your entire being.

Yayyy! I have my own word now.

What does Zamplification refer to ?

We all know about the laws of attraction of the universe.

Where books say “You are the product of your thoughts.”

Bible says “Ask and you shall receive, seek & you shall find, knock & the door shall be open. ”

This is basically what you think is what you become, I do have a separate write up on it written back in 2014 – WITIWIB ( https://leannerod8.wordpress.com/2014/12/06/witiwib/  ).

So coming back to my topic of zamplification,

it is to amplify your entire being,

have you ever noticed that if you are sad, dull, negative, your life is a drag of pessimism  ?

And if you are happy, fun loving, optimistic, it’s like you are the magnet for happiness, people often tag you as a “Happy go lucky, jolly good fellow.”

So this is exactly what Zamplification is about.

To Zamplify, one must simply :

-be good to oneself

-think good about oneself

-self love, self respect, self belief, self reliance should be prioritised .

-if you are a victim of pessimism then start practicing optimism, by saying aloud positive affirmations daily , like I am happy, i am enough, I can do this, I am able, I am unique, I am a masterpiece, etc.

-What you feed your being is what you amplify, what you shall reap in the morrow depends on what you feed.

Whether food or thoughts, let it be good, healthy, and refreshing.

-Refrain from going back to the bad spots of your earlier self.

– Good is achievable, success is achievable, if you believe.


And I do believe zamplifying myself will lead me into the best definition of living life well.
Zamplification  for me is a new art of living to amplify my being by producing and harboring good positive thoughts, converting my negative energy into goal oriented plans and using the unconvertible to fuel me to become a better being.

It is a step for change.

I want to Zamplify into my best self , at every phase in my life.

(I will write more on this … an indepth study. )

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Sailing through the Storms!

” What does it profit a man to gain the whole wide world , but suffer the loss of his soul ?” Luke 9:25

I’ve been pondering on these lines for quite a while now.

How indeed is it proper ?

To be beautiful , but have an envious heart?

To be smart , but unkind and overly proud?

To be understanding , but only to a few?

To love, but conditions apply?

To give , but to want in return?

To make-believe that you are good , but beneath the facade lies a monster?

To hesitate with generosity,

To be clever, but not wise?

To grow into something more, wanting more, because less does not suffice anymore?

To hope, but have doubts?

To smile, whilst having a weary soul?

To dream, but not strive to achieve them?

To expect , but not do?

To cry and want a shoulder, but never wipe anyone’s tears?

To let go, but not forgive?

To be happy , but not fight your storms?

To be rich, but have a poor spirit?

To be nice to the world, but disobey one’s own parents?

To want a crown of glory , but not the responsibility?

To wish to be a child again, but not grow into an example for your child to follow?

 

How indeed it would feel to have all my wants and desires fulfilled? to never have pain? Never walk through storms? Never  meet trying people? Never see through the masks of many?

How would it feel to never know what feeling sad, depressed, demotivated is like? To have  low self-esteem,  to feel weary, dull and exhausted? To want to keep to oneself and stay away from bitter and good people? How would it feel to not know how to appreciate these storms of life? To not know the power of overcoming the hurdles? To not know what it really takes to become strong? To not know our limits of acceptance and patience whilst we are being shaped in the furnace? To not melt down into a puddle but be shaped into a stronger vessel?

How would it feel to not know the worth of sweating and every penny we earn? To not know that giving away something always and always fetches you silent blessings and smiles worth any treasure in the world?

Without the anxiety and sadness would you still know what happiness meant?

Would you  appreciate the growth in yourself after a deep struggle? Would you know the wisdom a storm delivers you that no book can teach you or warn you about?

Through depression, would you  have really understood how a small word of appreciation, motivation, a mere push or a smile could actually work wonders?

Sometimes it is through experience that we learn the greatest lessons of life. Some which your parents and elders warned you about , but you turned deaf. It is only when it so happens to us, that we begin to understand the complexities and simpleness of every life situation.

 

“I believe in you; and I want you to believe in yourself.

You indeed LIVE ONLY ONCE. So revive your drooping spirit,

Make truckloads of memories, fight and be victorious through storms.

Do not seek to gain wealth and the treasures of the world, but seek that- that would nourish your soul.

Be kind and kindness will follow you everywhere.

Motivate and appreciate and respect people, and you will have followers.

Be generous and you shall receive a bounty of blessings.

Be good, because the world needs  goodness.

PEOPLE ARE NOT BAD, THEY ARE WEAK. It is WEAKNESS that makes us  NEGATIVE.

We always have a choice to either be strong or weak. Choose wisely.

Be sensitive, so you remain human.

If you want success, never be ruthless ( now hey! You don’t want your spirit tarnished and no curses right?)

Success needs no competition, no crown of glory; it is a feeling of fulfilment that you have indeed achieved and that’s just it, not at the cost of jeopardising others.

Success should not make you greedy, just like rich people wanting to get richer. Sometimes you have to learn to remember when it is enough. To be happy with what you have.

Tell me- where will you take it all? Into your grave? For your future generations? WHY  ?? Do you really believe that they are incapable of sustaining themselves? Or do you never want them to taste all flavours of life and let them decide what they prefer? Stop making your generations lazy.

Do give your children more of that- that would help them face storms, to be strong, and support them whilst they go after their dreams- no matter how lame you think they are, they hold value in their vision. Even if they do mistakes ,help them grow through them.

If there’s anyone who tells me that they are the same person they were a decade back, all I can say  is that “ Dear , I feel sorry that you haven’t grown through the decade, because if  you would have, you would never be the same person- you would be either 10 times better or worse.”

Sometimes you gotta listen to your instincts. Take a leap, if that’s what its telling you.

No matter how deep your fear or downfall, you will lend somewhere, and gradually you will learn to rise above all.

You definitely need to plan and methodise your life. But sir! Don’t restrict yourself to your schedule so much that you forget to live life. Don’t be a workaholic, that your family would have to beg for a time slot .

Work hard, be efficient , become indispensable; BUT try not to get stuck in one place. Indulge in variety of tasks and you will learn to savour the flavours of success. Learning is indeed a beautiful process that adds to your intellect and knowledge. But it is only the storms and trials of life that will help you gain wisdom and stand tall  in jubilation after the battles.

“Life is a journey from one port to another, my ship won’t harbour in one place for too long. Because I need to set sail, move forward, navigate through different routes, prepare for storms sudden and unsudden, keep my mind calm in the most abnormal hours, experience the tides of life. And if my ship ever sinks, I need to learn to swim and surf through the mighty waves until my spirit says otherwise.”

“ My life is a journey to restore my soul.”

 

 

Brain and Heart talk

Brain: hey,  weren’t you supposed to study today?
Heart: yes. But I hadto go. And now I feel bad. I wasted another day. Didn’t I?
Brain: hmmm that depends. Tell me – what did you do with the day?
Heart:lots!! I laughed and smiled. Walked around. Breathed in some fresh air. Snapped away moments. Shopped with my family. Sang. Went to church. Bought some things. Strolled around making my feet ache.
Brain: great! Now tell me,did you once feel bad while you were engrossed with what u said you were doing that you didn’t do what you were supposed to do today?
Heart: not once. If I think of it now.
Brain:You have your answer. You didn’t waste your day.
Heart:Yes. Thanks. I LIVED IT.

Don’t live life eveyday like its a stress-storming episode all the time, like tomorrow is another exam.
It’s not worth it.
What if it ends tomorrow?
What if now my life ends? I die!
Have I really lived?
In the end, Job karke pet hi toh barna hai na (we haveto work somewhere and fetch our daily bread only right)? Itna stress, I dont think is worth it.

But in it all we never have to let go of our dreams.

Seriousness is required. But without compromising with  LIVING LIFE.

It shouldn’t cost us illness, negativity and loss and fear and everything that diminishes us.
To be frank, I don’t really need a CA tag to make my family proud of me..they wont love me less if things dont work out..
At the same time.., I wont be happy being careless..
I will try my best untill I wear out.
But despite of my trying, things don’t work out then I wont push my luck and cry in frustration.
I’ll write another chapter of my life.
I have detached from all.
I expect less.

But I do expect one thing- “Axe in my back.”
Working with probabilities is not always fun but it’s better than working with plans that don’t really work out.

Things happen and they dont..
They take time..&  patience runs out and blah!
But I just know, In the end I’ll have
EXPERIENCE!!!
Not loss.. Not failure..
Not negativity.. !!
Just another step into something different.

Life is not running after one thing. .  One love..  One time stuff.. One type routine. One typical look.

I would never want my life to be like a “one time watch boring movie.”

I would rather want it to be more of a mix match awsome stuff that can go on and on without boredom being a part of it.

Look at the world, there’s a hell lot out there…
Adventures,  life,  nature,  I wish to explore and to see more.
Hell!! I have more dreams than I can write about…
I would wanto go out into d world.. See more of it.. Snap it..Try extraordinary stuff.
How about skyscrapping? Surfing? Canoeing? Gyming? River rafting?Mountain climbing?
Adventures!!!!!!!
I want to do stuff that I’ve never done before.

When was the last time you did something for the first time?

I’ve heard many say, “become CA and then earn and then enjoy. “”
Seriously..??
If I dont become one.. How can they imply I wont earn and enjoy life? How can they predict my future?
They aren’t God.  They are human. So am I.

I will go out there into the world, and do my own mistakes,  learn from them and move on. I just got to  do it all on my own. I need to taste through my mouth,  not base my decisions on what my life tastes on their tongues. I have a right to be wrong, and to righten my wrongs. I have a right to make my mistakes and grow from them and I have an obligation to feel blest with what I have,  it’s so much more than many of us strive for. I am grateful.

Just recently, I’ve been listening to people and mentally punching them, know why?
One is because of the above.
And secondly :
When I was small ” these people would say -“your tooo skinny.”””
And now every time I meet them, “you’ve put on!””

Seriously??
I give them my polite replies,  nevertheless
My mind screams “seriously NUTCASE, do you think I wont know what’s happened to me? And if it’s my problem then why do you find joy in pasting it on my forehead with your filthy words? ”

Age old society habbit “stigmatising “””
Get over it people.

If you can’t be nice and talk positive and say good things.
Then just shut the hell up.
No one in the world,  likes their flaws being rubbed on their face. So cut the crap.
Be nice. Or be quiet.
Choose one.
No one needs your advice and opinion if all you can do is make others feel bad, and demotivated.
I know we are in the world of “dont give a damn attitude ”
But seriously it doesn’t work all ways.
We dont have that attitude with people we tag as our own. But the moment the “our own” do things like that, they ask for this.. “they just become people permanently not our own.””
Get that straight.

Now dear heart and brain, let’s vamos.

Reborn to Life!!

For all those still struggling to breathe and just live without dreading the worst, let me tell you … “the torture won’t last long. It will be over before you know it. But if you still haven’t caught your sails and changed your directions, then life will. There will be this moment when you will feel like your dead, or you’ve lost the battle. The moment you will finally give up of holding onto whatever that you are enduring. The moment when you don’t have to agree or disagree with your heart and mind. Because they both are in sync again. The moment when you are REBORN. You are awakened. You have just restarted your life engine.  11008325_782718461815568_908617588_n And Oh! what a joy indeed this is. No longer silence will depress you. No longer will you be enslaved to agony. no longer will you compromise on your soul’s happiness. It doesn’t matter what they say : very often you will hear- “Look at you, you have changed. ”  I wouldn’t want to ponder in what sense they say it. Because I know “ I HAVE CHANGED”. A change that touched me like a ray of light. and now I manifest and ask the universe to be kind – and it does. It makes me wanna glow and hold on to the light within me. I love this change. All I want to do now is sing:

I am my sunshine, my only sunshine

I can be happy , when the skies are grey..

You’ll never know dear   – how much I love me,

Oh you can’t take my sunshine away.

yes, you can’t take my sunshine away!”

When you are certain of what you resemble to your own inner self, when you have peace and tranquillity within. When you are in control of what you think and what you feel, When there are no “ifs” any-more to worry about. You have achieved something great and wonderful. What do you think that is?? You have achieved a fine and unique vision for your life. You know what has been and you know that whatever shall be before you , you shall be fine. No storm lasts longer than the time it needs to pass. Everything never is stuck. Its all in motion. Whether we like it or not “Moving forward with time” is how life is. images Rewinding or fast-forwarding life has never been an option. Living in an anti-clock wise timed world isn’t reality. The past is a historic encyclopaedia naturally present like a micro-chip in our brain. Refer to it only when you wish to remember the best moments of your life , and fill your heart with gladness; or refer in-case you need a quick re-understanding of a life lesson learnt. Refer not to it- to wrong your future or compromise with your present. When you have a faith -i.e; strong and encouraging you to live life with a smile, your spirit is in well-being. The very knowledge of what was unbearable, strengthens you further and rejuvenates your entire being . This feeling of being full of life, a breath of sunshine, with smiles for all times, peace and patience in abundance – where living life is like a blessing, waiting for the good is like knowing seasons change and its always wonderful, giving yourself a chance and accepting the way you are without the need of the acceptance of the other. When you are able to “ACCEPT yourself regardless of whatever happened, what will happen or what is happening, and you believe and know that GOD (the universe) has your back. ” You can be anything you wish to be so long you know that it is the best in the vision of the Holy divinity. It needs to be in sync to the things you attract. This is law of attraction in force. Ask and believe you will receive what you ask for, and it will so happen. quote-freedom-is-a-noble-thing-great-happiness-does-freedom-bring-all-solace-to-a-man-it-gives-he-john-barbour-209167 The journey from teenage to adolescence is like a trap full of life lessons. Everyone gets caught in the tangled mess, those who survive have learnt to catch their sails, those who fall prey learn to destroy the sails but very often life gives chances to rebuild what’s broken , rekindle the flame that the storms extinguished, revive your near-dead spirit, let your life engine roar back to life and there you are.. on a journey of living a meaningful life. And when you become all wise, you realise time runs out of hand. And sometimes you wish it would be a little slower, but in vain will that ever happen. So we gotta dash along faster, get hold of what we need and not what we desire and chase the sun and befriend time. Rest whilst we can, find solace in the smaller bits of happiness. Live and enjoy and let your sparkle spread over the horizon. Shine like a light-beacon. Radiate joy through time. It is said:

“Success is failure recycled. Life is death Reborn.”

ACE of LIFE

I am the one holding the aces of my life in my hand.

I am deliriously happy, wonderfully content and blissfully at peace.

It’s not luck. It’s just the time after the rain.

The clouds have moved on behind me. And as I face the sun; I am stronger, happier and hopeful for my morrows.

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I am no longer in search of love, peace , understanding and happiness. Because I already have it , in abundance.

Because I realised the key to win life and be a spirit of gratitude is WITHIN me.

I can change my fate, when I have a will.

Our FATE lives within us, We need to be Brave enough to see it.

I alone can set me free from all bondages of suffering.

I feel there are Three phases :

PHASE 1: When you drown into desolation, you lose hope. And you stop fighting against what is trapping you further into that dark pit. But I assure you , there is a point you reach, when it is unbearable, and you can’t take it anymore. And that’s just it. The fact that you accept that “you cant take it anymore” is enough .

PHASE 2: Do you feel that? The easing of pressure. Like a burden off you. Feeling Calm. And just like that you enter into this stage of being “numb”. No sadness or happiness. No negativity ,nor positivity. You just be there. And let the calm fill you in and out. You are pensive. You understand the phase one. And you understand that you don’t need to be sad. That you  need only you to be stronger. That you’re still breathing. And there’s something still out there worth living for.

PHASE 3: It’s when you realise there’s HOPE for something better. That life doesn’t lose it’s meaning with one lost battle. That every loss or failure counts. That it makes you better than who you were. It makes you accept the things you thought you couldn’t survive. It makes you accept that your life doesn’t move on whether you find something or lose. You realise that sometimes being without a purpose is a purpose in itself. The journey to find one. You see, at this stage you are at peace. And you smile from within. And even if life is not at its best. You are still happy (even without a reason to be).

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Happiness doesn’t depend on a reason. It is an art of developing a healthy spirit.

ACCEPT THAT YOUR HAPPINESS IS AT YOUR WILL. COMMAND IT. WILL IT. LIVE IT. BREATHE IT.

ACCEPT THAT WHAT YOU THINK creates the situations of your life.

SO THINK AS YOU CREATE.

ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE THE MASTER. BE ONE. TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE.

COMMAND THE UNIVERSE TO GRANT YOUR WISH. If you want something to work, be the boss who commands , gets the work done and also does the work. 

Your life is like a project. Work on it the best you can. GIVE IT YOU’RE ALL. There’s a viva in the end. You gotta learn to answer the unasked questions and figure out how to go about with the unanswered questions. Life doesn’t end where people think it ends for you. Life doesn’t move with the number of failures or success. Life is not a mere journey from here to there, or down to top. It doesn’t matter if you are a billionaire or an extraordinarily great world-famous performer or just an ordinary person. Remember we all are born to die. So let’s be happy with the plate we have and work passionately to live our dreams.

Reality of those great successful people is that they managed to give substance and form to their dreams. It is not impossible. YOU CAN BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE , provided it’s in tune with what YOU OUGHT TO BE.

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Life is a meaningful mystery. A gift from The Most High. And if you think you have un-wrapped it and you know what it is? You’re wrong.

Life is that gift that you keep un-wrapping till your last breath. The more you understand it, the more beautiful it gets.

It’s human enough to be considerate to those who respect you and be there for you. But pay no attention to the hypocrites who open their mouth and mind to rewind your growth. BE KIND. Even when you wish to ignore the words, REMEMBER that the {words , feelings, thoughts} and the {person} are two different aspects. Be fair as to how you treat the two. REMEMBER. Never ever believe YOU KNOW ENOUGH. Because you don’t. BE OPEN TO Every bit of knowledge you can get.

You hold the FOUR aces of your life:

ACE of HEARTs : spread the warmth of love and affection everywhere you go. Rekindle the flame in every shattered heart to love oneself above the misery. ACE of CLUBs :The clubs symbolising – Flowers -a sign of appreciation and honour when given to someone. Be a generous giver. Appreciate the things that make you smile and the things where the efforts put in are visible. It may not make you happy, but you sure can make someone happier than you know it. ACE of DIAMONDs : Be like a diamond. Don’t get tired of being polished until you shine. Even when it is tough, remember that the rough edges are being made smooth, for something better awaits. ACE of SPADEs : This one should remind you that you govern your life. That you can change anything in a mini-second ,if and only if, you will. YOU CAN WIN . Play the Ace of spades to change your life for better. It is the KEY to your FATE in you. One last thing  – a noble man I knew taught his children: If you lose WEALTH, you’ve lost NOTHING. If you lose HEALTH, you’ve lost SOMETHING. But If you lose CHARACTER, you’ve lost EVERYTHING

The mighty pause

DEAR  ME,

It’s been a very long time indeed. I haven’t been myself in this period- I’ll refer to as “the pause of my life.”

It had been a Philippians-4-6-7whirlpool of riotic feelings and pessimistic visions for as long as it lasted.

I am truly glad it’s over. The most difficult time in it all was for me to realise and accept that I had the key to shut it all once and for good. But I took my own time drilling me into an ocean of  desolation and grumpiness.

I took time feeling unworthy, shattered, lost, Carl-Jung-Quote-Even-a-happy-life-cannotand seeing failures and dark pits at every horizon.

They kept telling me ” this ain’t you, wake up. I learnt to be brave from you. I learnt to accept change from you. I learnt to be optimistic from you.  You can’t be this negative. Stop inflicting self pity and torture.”

The words rang deep. But all I felt was hollow. It felt unreal, did I really mean all that? Did I really be someone who I am not now? How did I change? How do I change back? Where do I find the key I misplaced?

Questions and questions.. Never ending ordeal of pessimistic notions.

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So many “Cannots, may nots, Will not, have not, not enough,…. ”

Oh! God save me, It felt like someone was ripping my soul before me to shreds and I stood there dumb, shakened, absorbed in the ruthless moment of misery.

It felt like someone inside me wanted to scream but I just couldn’t break free. I didn’t know how, nor when, nor what.

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What a horrifying nightmare indeed!

There’s alot this pause taught me.

Analysing the situation. Analysing my life, me.

Accepting that I can control  the thoughts that  govern my life.  That I will see the good in the bad. That I will be an optimist in the most undesired life situations. That I can go beyond this phase of negativity and lunge into the heaven of good positive vibes.

Things that we lose are things that we dont deserve. Things that we get are beautiful blessons ( blessings+ lessons).

13027247Sometimes it is so difficult to forgive, when you are not asked to forgive. Sometimes it’s so difficult to forget what you forgive. And Sometimes it is so difficult to accept the wrongs you’ve done and to move on. Yet in time, we do it all naturally. Do not force yourself, what has to happen will find a way gradually.

Life never promised that the canvas would remain colourless. When there are colours of warmt and liveliness, everyone feels the joy, but when the canvas gets splayed with dark spots, not everyone is able to appreciate the hidden beauty in it.

Not everyone is able to see the better picture before us.

It takes time to see through what we don’t want to see.

It takes time to accept what we are not ready to.

And it takes time to appreciate what we accept.

There’s a hell lot of difference when we say, we forgive from our heart and keep no grudges, no regrets, no remorse, no crudeness, no hatred. The question is what or whom do we forgive?

The deed and the person are two differentiable things.

When you forgive the deed, you have forgiven the person. You have forgiven yourself. And so to rest you have laid your negative emotions. You have compassion towards you and your fellow beings. You won’t run or escape or ignore what is so tangible and before your eyes. You can face anything, when you have the peace within. This peace gives strength, hope, faith and courage to be more resilient and more welcoming to the endless difficult phases of life.

And when you forgive the person without forgiving the deed. You will never be at peace. You will never be able to be compassionate with yourself.

To reach out to your soul, you need to be at peace- peace that stills away all that is unbalanced and let’s you walk through the doorway to meet your own-inner-self. Only then you feel relaxed and calm.

You need to succumb to no evil pressures but to God ( any Positive source of energy) alone.

You need to be in oneness, with the image of your soul. Only through compassion you can see the reflection of your soul in the acts of your human form.

(what I meant by “Deed” : Deed is that act or moment or notion that you find unforgivable, or that disturbs you internally, or makes you lose your sense of judging reality)

“TAKE IT EASY, BUT DON’T TAKE IT LIGHT.” – these words my brother said to me will always be with me.

Negativity of your thoughts and people takes us nowhere but into worse negative situations..

But positivity will take us a long way, its a slow but the best antidote for a long term life gain..

I failed in my efforts to get my goal, the goal I always wanted. But now because of this pause I am suddenly not so sure, if it still is what I want. I will take my time to find a way in or a way out.

But for the time that I lost, I can’t use the time that I have in wailing and sniffing about it. I need to restucture my way of life, so I know That I will never have to worry about unstable roots again. I need to focus on growing and learning to bloom in spring, to provide shade in summer, to give warmth every winter, to reach out to the sun, to be a shelter to those in need, to absorb the negativity around and give away positive vibes, to plant a tree of hope and self-reliance in everyone who walks by me.

I need to never forget to be ever so grateful, for the arms that reached out to me, the smiles that encouraged me, the love that helped me out a mess I created. Thank you.

And the best thing that the pause gave me is the experience of God. That he never forsakes. That it’s okay to fall, but it’s not okay  to not try to rise after the fall. That I am His Child, born to be victorious. And I have a spirit of life and peace that sets me free from all bondages of evil, sin and darkness.

And here I am resurfacing  from the depths of the unwanted sea of pessimism.

I am the writer of my life, and I will write it till the end.

I will change the course of my ship, when I have to, even if I’m not ready.

I will enjoy the nasty jerks and mild swings of every tide.

I will build my life into something that I will always love.

And I will appreciate the fact that at all times I HAVE ENOUGH.

I will live a life of gratitude.

Burst bubbles – are Lessons learn’t

Time to break some bubbles. Has this ever happened to you? somethings that once were so wonderful , now have left a sour taste in your mouth? How is it that the “once upon a time right thing” , suddenly goes all wrong? It’s like someone just burst your bubble. And you don’t quite like it , maybe because its alil rough. But guess what?

BRAVOO!!! You’re finally awake… and out of a dreadful dream.

There comes a time for most of us where we ponder about our past. How was it? And what all happened in there! And where have we reached … and where are we to go? Aaah! ….Too many questions. Now that I was saying past, there’s gonna be tons of regrets , grudges, bad stressful moments ,and so on and so forth. That’s the negative part of it. If we look on the positive side.. then there are a million more blessings and beautiful moments that have stored in them a lot of our pride, laughs, smiles , and all those goody things along the line.

We can’t toss these two sides of our past, both are part of the same coin.

There’s always gonna be some moments when we will be totally happy or awfully sad. Whether it’s the past, present or future… there are certain things we need to consider in life:

1] If you are a person who tries to reach out to people, help them live life better. REMEMBER: Whilst helping, help yourself too. I don’t mean “be selfish”. What I mean is:

“DO NOT DEGRADE YOURSELF in the process of UPGRADING your fellow beings.”

2] Learn to say NO. There are times when it is so completely difficult to say “NO”. But come-on, it’s a human right we need to exercise when needed. Just say it. “No, I’m fine with what I have.” “No, I don’t want it.” “No, I have too much on my plate already.” “No. I can’t help you.( because right now I am busy helping myself.)” “No , It’s not me that’s changed , but my vision.” A simple “No” can help you a long way. It will help you not be over-burdened. It will help you operate a healthy lifestyle where people will not take you for granted. It will give you an opportunity to work best with what all you have. Efficiency and peace you will achieve.

Just a “NO” , will remind some the importance of your presence. This “NO” will help remind you, of your lost sense of existence.

3] Never try to open closed doors. I’am sure we all as kids, have had situations- when our parents told us not to do a certain thing, but out of curiosity, we still pay no attention to the instructions and do the untold. Et voila , there comes MR.TROUBLE smiling evilly as always. We need to realise and pay attention closely to what our elders say, because they say out of experience. May not always be right, but if you think logically most of it will be right. Ignore the superstitions though. I’m sure we know to differentiate.

Well, Some doors are meant to be closed. Don’t try acting too smart, wearing a cloak of fake strength and getting all “SUPERMAN-ish”…. the power thing works in movies. In real, we are humans and we gotta deal with things the best way we can to cope better.

So, superman stuff wont work here. But if you still wish to be the nosey lil cat, go ahead and try opening the shut doors. Let me warn you, there’s more trouble you’re inviting than just a pinch because:

YOU WILL FIND THE REASON WHY IT IS MEANT TO BE SHUT FOR GOOD.

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4] Do not over-think My dear, we’ve got one life. And even if some chunks of it ,so far, have been bad, atleast some of it has been good. DO not over-blow your brain. It needs “no sort of mental abuse”. Go with the flow. Live life. You will lose alot of things. You will gain alot more. Lessons to be learnt. Friends to be earned. Memories to be made. Optimism- don’t let it fade.

It is a torture to dwell in negativity, depressive thoughts and lost hope. No-one promised life would be a bed of lilies. But yes, many say “It’s a WALK TO REMEMBER.” Indeed it is. People come and go. Things happen. Changes occur every now and than. And this is how it will always be. we can’t cling on to anything. The world is more of temporary stuff. And let’s not forget, we are not born to live forever, but to die blissfully. Let us as well live and taste everything we are offered and what we grab.

If we fret for all we lost, then there’s no end to the agony. But if we let it just be, and move on to see the blooms in our life. There’s a possibility for many rainbows to see.

5] Live with HOPE. And IN FAITH. Hope is the incentive that motivates us to live and keep walking to see the morrows. It may be a wish, a dream … just anything.. -that keeps you going.. Just like faith. Faith is the power to trust the unknown and believe that there’s something better even in the worst. We all know what HOPE and FAITH together can do. They are like Alladin’s magic carpet. You just gotta believe , breathe and hold on to it. Because it leads you somewhere when you stand on cross-roads .

6] LET GO. IMG_155555I’m sure we all have certain grudges , mistakes and some wrong decisions for which we may have-to pay a price our whole life. I am certain we all have done enough to repair and redesign these situations. But it all just went wrong and out of control. Okay. SO WHAT? It happened. Its gone. There’s nothing a tear shed can do- to undo it, to wipe it off our burdened shoulders. There’s nothing feeling sorrier will do. But all this will only keep you mentally unstable. You maybe perfectly normal to the world. But deep within you know there’s so much of compressed emotions. So much of frustrations. So much of unhealthy thoughts.

It is okay. SAY IT. FEEL it. FORGIVE. FORGET. At least TRY. MOVE ON. CHUCK IT.

DONT MAKE YOURSELF MISERABLE. That’s worse. GIVE YOURSELF a chance to heal, get over it, and breathe freely some air of relief.

Sleep at night not caring a damn of any messy grudges.

We need to remember that :  we do have a choice to choose the thoughts that could govern us. So let them be healthy, fresh, good and not at all part of the leftovers of yesterday. Each morning you wake, remember how good it is to feel “ALIVE”, breathing in the fresh morning sunshine, and starting a new day with a renewed spirit.

7] Be Self- sufficient. It is only when we depend on others, we sometimes face situations when we wish we’d rather not.

Expectations are not always proportionate to the acts of reality.

I don’t mean have no friends, be a loner or anything like that. What I mean here is-

Even if tomorrow you feel that you need someone, and no-one turns up beside you, you still have it in you to overpower the negativity and say and believe: “I am enough to win this battle.”

Dreaming is fine. But when you need to be realistic: Don’t waste precious time sitting to imagine, but be practical and come up with witty actions. Keep you mind on your shoulders and not your heart.

8] Be close to your POWER HOUSE. You need it all the Time.

For me its my GOD. It could be any source that could fill  you with immense strength, power, self confidence, faith, hope, understanding, wisdom , et cetera. By power-house I mean. The source on which you can depend blindly and know it will never fail you. The source that can keep the positive flame always alight and burning in you. The source that gives you boundless inspiration to LIVE to the fullest, LAUGH at all chaos and LOVE without a doubt.

   IMG_3623185376606Dear friends, Life is like the whispering wind. It blows through the meadows of happiness, over the tides of difficulty . Life is in you and around you. It is so very beautiful . Giving us opportunities to be awakened to renew ourselves every new day. Each day is a blessing to understand “what Life is this?”. That keeps you spellbound and awed in all its wonder.

Stay blest and happy.