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#16 Her_thoughts 

​Shush now..

There’s too much noise,

In my head

Or is it your voice?


Wait! who are you ?

I asked the space 

around my fingers 

that stared ahead,

greeted with silence yet again,

But somehow 

this time felt like 

I’m home 

peaceful sans  pain. 

-Leandra .R.

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Dear Miss 24,

Dear Miss 24,

As frightening as this phase in the unknown is, and let’s not forget the increasing societal pressures of things I’d rather not delve into at the moment,

Take a breath. Stay calm.
Saying aloud that you’ve already grown past two decades, is tough if you make it feel so.

Age is what but just a number that will remind you how much in experience and maturity you have grown. Let it not bother you because it bothers the society around. 

Let’s accept the fact that you are here, right this moment, right where you are planted to grow or to bloom, to sprout or to remain still.
Be still in this moment, Love, for life can be as complicated as you make it. 

Even though you sometimes overthink, know that everything shall pass. Someday you won’t remember what bothered you in the yesters. 

And tomorrow’s worries have never made your day any brighter.
How about you focus on the goals on your checklist?

There’s lots to do, lots to achieve, and such exciting places to be.
It’s not a storm anymore , beloved. 

It’s life. And dont make it a battlefield 

until your sole focus is victory. 

Live life in the now, the present, however tough that may seem.
You don’t have to feel obliged to be good and go out of your way, when you know very well, you still have to learn to say ‘No’, try to figure out how to deal with the negativity that follows your refusals. 

Also note those who turn bitter when you say no , and you know you aren’t wrong to do so, then do not fall prey to fake emotional torments, but stand by yourself, you deserve to make your own decisions, and ought to let go of people who stick by you for want of something that degrades you and your self esteem. If they stick to you regardless, there’s no ulterior motive there, be not afraid to vibe.
Sometimes it’s how you treat yourself that matters more than how anyone around will treat you.
Self love my dear soul, self love will help redeem the scars of the many “I am not enoughs” your mind is filled with.
For now, as you still embark on a journey to inspire, 

to create something with your fire and to grab those goals you’ve always dreamt of, let’s ensure your soul never ever tires.
Your’s always,

Leandra.

Do not tolerate body shaming.

I’m a pear shaped body with a soul that is garden to kindness and happy vibes. But very often I am also a victim of body shaming and (skin ) discrimination. Like people look at me and pity how I look, my body, or my skin, they feel annoyed and make me feel like I’m a disgrace sometimes. Just because I’ve got some undisguised layers of fat or muscle, which in their opinion isn’t the right way I should be. 

Here’s what I have to say to you : 

Someone told me today,

that my curves are what makes me who I am.

And not to pay heed to criticism I face on a day to day basis.
Even though she said the West craves for a body like mine, I somewhere hoped that perhaps if I was in the West , I’d not feel completely alien sometimes.
Body shaming is downright degrading people !
It took me longer to come to terms with what I am and accept myself at that. Self love is tough when your opinions get in the way. It’s a journey that never ends. And I’m on mine. I will not tolerate your blows to bruise my soul.
My worth can never be assessed based on  fake pathetic  beauty standards and catastrophic world benchmarks.
I’m fine being me. Imperfect as you say, flawless as I feel,

tinted on my edges and excited about my dreams.
If you have something kind and good , I’m all ears. 

But again, a non appreciative tongue always bites you back.
Don’t weigh your judgemental opinions over the sensitivity of others. Be human enough to let them live in their own space. 

If you have a problem, change your direction. 

Do not be a “knowitall” giving unwanted advices and harsh criticism when not needed.
If you know me in person, you’ll know for a fact I have a few friends that I feel my vibration with. The lesser, the better. 

I’ll be kind and good to you, so long it is reverted back with the same equilibrium.
If not, my silence is your guest.
So dear everybody being the victims of body shaming, love yourself so highly that the petty sly opinions of people , who probably eat bitter-gourds and venomous snakes the whole day, never mess with your positive vibes. 

Slay your way your day ,belle !
Ciao Adios , I’m done .😉 #leeevibes
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The walk.

Lee : Jesus, where are we going ?

Jesus : That’s a surprise my child. 

Lee: Will I be happy?

Jesus : With me, yes, you will be.

Lee: See Lord, it’s so beautiful and green, can I take one flower? They are so beautiful!

Jesus : My child, What would you do with it ?

Lee : hmmmm.. keep it… ? take it home.. 

Jesus : And then. 

Lee : It will die eventually, though. So I dunno.

Jesus : Yes. This beauty that you see around will fade in time, even you my child , your outer beauty will fade as you grow older, but your inner beauty will shine brighter. Will you walk with me ? Where I want to take you, is a beautiful place, but quite an adventure. Are you ready ?

Lee: Yes , Lord. I so am. Let’s go. 

Jesus : Thinking. [ If only she knew, that not all paths will be through the greenest valleys, there will be a few paths through the dessert, where she will be thirsty for many things, but they will be hard to find, there will be a few or many mountains for us together to climb, will she remember at all times, that I am here, holding her hand ? Will she remember to be this excited about life always, as we walk through these green meadows ? I will teach her. I hope she allows me to. ]

Lee : Jesus? Are you there ? Why are you not talking to me ?

Jesus : I’m here my child, what is it ?

Lee : The green pastures are gone, and I think there’s a storm coming our way, I’m afraid. Please don’t leave me Lord.

Jesus : Listen to me my child, I am your God, I will never forsake you. Do not be afraid. I am with you, for now and always. Do not fear the storm, when you have me. Do not doubt my presence through our journey. 

Lee : Our journey Lord? Ain’t this my life ?

Jesus : No, my child. This life that I gave you belongs to me as much as you, you are mine, and so is your life. I control it. Do you have faith ?

Lee : Faith ? Yes Lord. But What about the storm ? There’s no way out. We are trapped. 

Jesus : This is your test My child, Fix your eyes on me. Whom do you see ? In this storm, if you see only me, You will know I will lead you through it. Don’t take your eyes off me, you will get lost.

Lee : If I get lost, Will you find me ? 

Jesus : I always will. But will you come back to me, when you find the way ?

Lee : Yes Lord.

Jesus : I will always wait. Trust me, my child, what awaits you goes through me first. I will not give you what you can’t handle. And when you are tired and heavy burdened, give it to me, your all, and I will give you rest.

Lee : I love you Lord. I now know I’m safe in your hands. I will focus on you as we go through this.

Jesus : I love you more my child,  My love for you is boundless. Even when you lose focus, I will be there. I will protect you and save you. Do not be afraid. I am the way, the truth and the life.

Lee : You are my way. My life is your’s. I am your child. Thank you for being with me.

Jesus : Come now, child, let’s go. The plans I have for you, will lead you to prosperity. Count on me. And remember, it is not only the dessert we shall walk through, but we will have to climb the hills and mountains on our way. We have to keep walking, in faith. My father will guide us with His spirit. Do you believe in me ?

Lee : Yes , Lord , I do. Will it be too tough ?

Jesus : It will make you brave and strong and victorious. Let’s keep walking. Each step will take us closer to your reward.

Learn as you walk, child. There are many lessons we learn in this walk of life. 

I will teach you. 

Lee: I will try to do right, please don’t leave me.

Jesus : I won’t.

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As we walk through life, we often fail to realise that God is with us, every moment of our journey.

May we learn to focus on Him, to remember Him always in all that we do.

May we learn the many lessons he wants us to learn as His plans for our lives unfold.

May we learn to be like Him. Gentle, kindhearted, full of love and mercy and compassion and gratitude and limitless faith.

Stay blest.

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Attraction Distraction Obsession Destruction.

It all starts with a few stares shared. Or that head rush where you feel like you’re high and you can’t stop taking your eyes off the specimen of your interest.

From a stupid crush to the strong pulls of attraction, which often turns into fascination, and upon alil fueled flirty conversations you are likely to become obsessed to either impress or charm or seek the attention of the much wanted distraction , so you can have a twist in your stagnant boring life.

As much as crushing is a good feeling, and it is nothing evil or such, it’s just human of us to feel the pulls of the universe around, whether from a person in our vicinity or any other such object ;

but being obsessed is just another thing. Obssession comes only when you feed your crush feeling with even more strong pulls and pushes of attraction. And very often if you are not cautious , such obssession slowly takes control of the way you think, and feel, it kinda posseses you, and all you crave is that good mushy feeling all the time, the attention, the tingly beats of your heart, the head rush, the smiles that you dont keep a check on while reading a message or talking or simply checking out the object you are slowly getting obsessed with.

Mind you, unhealthy obsessions act as a trigger of self destruction . You may not realize it, but you are uneasy and unsettled and over thinking in the absence of your crush. And that often steals your peace and makes you agitated.

Remember, not all crsuhes come with a tag of love, some are just for us to live at the moment and forget. Not all attractions should be fed for you to get obsessed. And not all obsessions should you let possess you, and destroy the lil peace you have.

Unknowingly as humans we fall trap to the push and pulls of the universe, and so be conscious and know what should be fed and what should be starved. When you become too agitated in the absence of something, it is best to maintain a distance, find a good distraction and keep your mind busy, slowly the agitation will fade into nothingness given proper time.

It is the same like addiction. You are so obsessed over a thing, your brain controls your feelings and makes you believe that that particular feeling is something you need, you just need it , and you can’t do otherwise. But that’s not true. Everyone can adapt to changes and getting over an unhealthy crush or obssesion or lost love, may act as a challenge for a moment, but it isn’t something that you need, you can get over it, given time and how you starve your brain and feelings of longing or false need.

Trust me. All your brain does in this starvation phase is  make you irritated and tempts you to give in, go ahead and indulge in your crush even when you dont really get the feelings or treatment you deserve in return. It makes you want to believe that it is completely ok. That may be what you thought you deserve is overstated, and you should settle for less.

NO! DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS. NEVER EVER DO THAT TO YOURSELF.

You first treat yourself with respect, know that you deserve what you offer in total equality. Nothing less. More is an added bonus.

What attention and feelings you invest, if reciprocated in the same force you have pushed so the other pulls, then it’s quite likely that such an investment may develop into a good relationship.

But if the crises forthcoming is seen before hand, you see the symptoms of an unhealthy relationship, then stop. Get back to yourself and catch yourself before you fall into the pit you digged.

Desolation is not a nice place to live in. Being irritated and sad and having thoughts of “what’s wrong with me? Am I not good enough?” are self destroying.

You are good enough. You are enough . Accept yourself first and let no one ever make you doubt that Your totality lacks anything. You are complete and unique , not a half , not unloved. You are your own person. And your love for yourself should be on par with your respect for yourself.

Questioning what you lack is mocking your self esteem and saying you love and respect yourself but not really feeling it genuinely.
Crush blush hush.

Don’t overpull, when pushed.

No one makes you sad, if you dont let them.

Let it not stranggle your peace.

It’s not worth thinking about if it makes you self doubt.

You are worth much more then being let down.

You are enough , even when they fail to see.

You are your own, change at your will , not at the will of others.

Take it easy. Take it slow. Go with the flow.

Take care. I hope this acts as an eye opener.

Have a great day.

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Had she had a spirit of rebel.

​And on days she had to behave,

she would wear her 4 inches,

sway her skirts,

and keep straight her mane.


And if she smiled,

it was surely a matter of grace,

but deep within,

she was smirking at fate.


Well bred, well fed,

she wasn’t meant to be a brat,

But she did wonder 

what would it be 

had she had a spirit of rebel ?


It wouldn’t have to be near the word caution,

it wouldn’t be her very evasion ?

of being modest and dreamy,

graceful and kind,

But Alas ! that’s uncanny,

since her spirit was tamed just fine.
_ L E A N D R A _
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I am enough.

When I was a kid, I was hopelessly stick thin, black and looked like an unwanted ugly monkey.

Well I’m sorry I’m harsh,  but that’s what I believe I felt or was made to feel.

No matter how many tonics or foods or skirts of bukram they’d dress me with, no layers could hide away what I was.

Basically ugly. Unphotogenic.

Even though I was loved, it came with a condition of me not learning to love myself.

I was always conscious. No one bothered to teach me to love and accept myself.

On the contrary it was the exact opposite, I had to layer up in bukrams to not look like a stick or pull my unruly curly hair in tight pony tails making my head ache, only so they could think I was having a civilized upbringing.

What would have it been like , to be told then,

“darling you are beautiful with your wild hair, and caramel skin. No matter what you weigh, don’t let your heart be dismayed. We love you, and you should love every part of you.Because beauty lies within.”

Would I have learnt to love myself differently?

But it didn’t happen that way.

Self loving was and is probably a selfish thought , as per them. Knowing the way I’m brought up, I should put others  before me. Being selfless is the key to live a good life.

Is it ? Being human and selfless all the time, made me realise I’m always paying the price for disappointments and expectations. When will I learn to love, respect and accept every atom in my body ?

They don’t understand that it’s a necessity for every child to learn to accept themselves before they can accept the world as it is.

If these children haven’t conquered their inner most demons, how will they withstand the trials of this journey ? But no, fitting in was more important lesson then helping them gear up for life battles through self acceptance.

Ofcourse, as I hit puberty, my body changed, I did gain weight. And guess what , now they have words like pumpkin and fat ass for me.

The name calling never changes in time. Does it ?

You are either too thin or too fat!

what’s perfect to fit in? exactly? I never felt that, I won’t ever know what it is like to be loved for being the perfect puzzle fitting everyone’s expectations?

Even though with the weight I gained, I kinda became abit photogenic, so I’m kinda cute, not beautiful, mind you, that’s something only for the perfect shaped fair beauties. Beautiful is a word I hardly came across.

Have you ever tried telling your kid how beautiful they are, how beautiful their heart is ?

That’s a beautiful way to soar their spirit, But naaah, I’m sorry you’ll are always busy teaching them to fit in the world.

Why the hell can’t you’ll realize, that not all are meant to fit in ? Why can’t you let them be ?

Sometimes you don’t have to teach your child what is right, have faith in them, and let them decide. If you taught them well, they will do good. And if they fumble, teach them, that it is okay, that they can rise, that they are loved for what they are. They don’t have to be like someone else, rather just be themselves , the true self their spirit belongs to. Stop comparing them to their siblings and friends. Each one is different. Whilst they lack what the others have, they have something that others don’t, instead of boiling and cursing on what they lack, why can’t you appreciate what they have ?

How difficult is it ? To only say a few kind words with a warm smile, assuring them, that you accept them even if the world doesn’t.

So when I faced a tough life situation, where I had to let go of what I wanted, because it was toxic and degrading me. I was raw , and bare and cut open, with so much anxiety, pain and no self love. Always wondering what went wrong ?

What did I lack ? questioning my existence. Not having faith in my purpose ? What was I doing here ? Why am I breathing ?  Am I that unwanted? Can no one learn to love me ?

How can they , when I can’t?

I learnt it the harsh way, when I thought it was too late to, I’m not yet done learning to fully love and accept my self. But I’m working on it.

Baby steps, small steps, a step forward is a way forward.

And I tell you it isn’t selfish to self love, it is a wonderful way to self accept the inner most being you are. And that acceptance fuels your confidence and builds your belief in yourself.

It is very crucial to love oneself before you can love others. Because only then you have love within, love enough to share.

Harbor and harness that inner love, let it grow, and then you shall see the change, where you can feel the beauty gush out from within you to around you. You will have a wonderful vision of life and live even more peacefully in a world, that you need not fear, need not be forced to fit in, because you don’t have to, you can stand out, and make others believe in their true authentic self. Because that is enough. You are enough.

I am enough. More than enough.