Love does not happen only once, that’s just a notion , inscribed forcefully on our brain, by believers around the world.
Love happens and that is beautiful, it is not controlled or forced, and it even makes you blind to the flaws of people you fall for, you tend to overlook their scars and vices, because you plainly simply love loving them.
And when sometimes things don’t get far as forever and ever or really end in happily ever afyers, you need to get out of the shell of remorse and grief and feeling hopeless and downcast. You need to stop blaming yourself for being blind and purposely ignorant of all the vices that now are screaming at you and making you regret your choices.
You are at this phase called, a chapter has ended, and like all, I am in pain and I should wallow there and rethink all my decisions and actions and blah. Stop reassessing the past. That’s gonna make you gloomy. You will fail to see the right reasons it was right at the time you stood in compared to all the wrong reasons you are so deliriously aware in the now . The times are different, the chapters you are living are different, and the you – you were and are , are having a huge gap of process learning change.
Because quite honestly, only after the move on thing, you’ll know that love is not forced, love does not envy and love is boundless. And sometimes you live this boundless abundance of love in fractional inches in a few chapters of learning and living , until you find a foundation of becoming a homemaker and investing you into building just that. Reaching this point is sometimes chance, sometimes a choice and mostly fate. Some want it , while some don’t and still there are other’s who are confused with the pictures weaved on what to expect and what would rather become of them.
Bible scriptures : 1 Corinthians 13:
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
See, we can love once or twice and fall apart. But it does not actually break our heart or us completely , only to the extent we allow. But once we realize this, we are at a better place of understanding, you can love again, feel attracted again and you’ll definitely perhaps find violins n flutes playing in your head as your emotions dance jazz and again feel your soul crushing. If you are compassionate and as open to receiving love as you are to giving love away, this will happen tons of times, until you know the value of what love is when you have it and when you lose and believe that love is what you will receive when love is what you give and so God will bless you with THE love that will make you stop hoping and waiting and pinning and wailing, because then that love will be the faith alive in you, a breathtakingly beautiful one, perhaps.
I do believe in happily ever afters and I know I will find mine, I am a firm believer in love eternity and I am also aware of the stakes and hiccups that life’s tantrums will throw , that some of which I won’t know how to deal with but time will be my teacher, and so all I’ll need is love in me, like a burning fuel to keep me going, always. It is like an anecdote to calmness and peace and belonging.
Do you remember the vows of marriage:
“In sickness n health, in good times and bad”
If we can vow our fidelity to one person for the remainder of our existence, and learn and grow through the journey,
Then don’t you think God has vowed to be with us always, to love and cherish us and be with us, mould us, give us what we need, bless us, lead us on paths he chose, make way for us where there are no ways, let us walk on raging waters, protect us from burning fires ? He married us even before we asked Him to be with us, and he has vowed to be the Lover of our soul and the Keeper of our hearts, the Source of our lives and to Love abundantly.
I dont want a story, that I plan anymore.
I want a story He plans.
Because in the end , He is the best story writer.
Also read : Sirach 42:18-25.
Sirach 42:24 All things are in pairs, each the opposite of the other, but nothing the Lord made is incomplete .