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Sometimes.

And sometimes life will take you to paths forbidden, paths you never wished to walk,

paths unknown, paths with steep slopes and dangerous rocks,

Sometimes you will assume that you are doomed, and God has been unfair, 

Sometimes you fail to see that the path you took wasn’t what you wanted, but needed to be who you are.

Each different direction life takes us and we act rigid to accept, adapt and change, 

Each time the wrong which feels too very wrong, 

has something right about it hidden in its depths,

something about finding yourself,

something about learning to love one self,

something about learning who you are,

how much you can take,

and how brave you can be,

These directions take us through the furnace and through the meadows,

sometimes we get so used to the furnace, the grill, the burns, that accepting the meadows feels alien.

and sometimes the meadows feel like home and the furnace like a never ending prison.

Everyone at some point, has this fluctuation.

You go through all that you go through to rise through it and become something even more wiser than before. 

The refusal to change and act rigid is the process of denial. Snap out of it. You can’t escape the paths. 

Some of us are so cautious, that we plan every day of our lives. Mind you the inevitables and paths that you need to take work through a divine plan and will find a way over and above your plans. 

Call it fate, destiny, karma or God… For me it’s God.

Life is preplanned by God, but is an unknown present to us. The present where we breathe is NOW, unwrapping the gift, parts we love, parts we like, parts we hate, parts we deny. But all of it hidden, known and unknown; liked , loved or hated, or denied, is life. 

Accept what it is, for this will help you accept you. Rigidity to accept life tantrums will slower your process of being you. 
Have a good day.

Carpet of wrong turns.

Hidden carpet of wrong turns ,

take me to the skies,

lead me on , beyond the ways

I couldn’t pass by.

Hear me out, oh Wrong turns!

don’t make my life a lie,

I chose you over 

all that life offered without any spite.

You were so tempting and conniving

Oh Wrong turns!

I was Eve , you – the Serpent,

You bit me, you hissed,

even my tears I risked,

I lost a lot, Oh wrong turns !

Your carpet holds the dead remains,

you snatched away, you gnawed at me,

you left me brutally mundane,

I repent though, Oh carpet of wrong turns!

I repent not thinking wise,

but the lessons you gave,

you made me so brave,

I’m starting to believe, I can rise.

Flying through you , oh carpet of wrong turns !

I’m learning to live my life,

And so now when I choose the right,

I remember how you taught me

from wrongs how to reach out into the light,

So hidden carpet of wrong turns,

within me you reside,

take me over and above my fears,

help me build my might in this fight.

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Choices that we think are wrong. Or have wronged us, in some way or the other, aren’t actually wrong .

There is something right in them. Look harder and someday you shall see what I meant.

I have learnt far more better certain amazing things about life deeply through my wrong turns. No , there wasn’t just once I was wrong, I’ve been wrong a great many times, but I’ve learnt something always and made sure to be wise.

But sometimes it’s not about being wise or practical or living how you are expected to, sometimes it’s about intuition, it’s about feeling something right in the moment, these situations may be right for that moment and wrong in all other, but that doesn’t mean , it’s wrong entirely. For the moment it was created, that choice you made was meant to be, whether wrong or right, everything is fated, it is bound to happen, one way or the other, whatever we choose to live with or depart from, essentially is a part of a much bigger beautiful plan by our God.

So dear there, don’t feel disheartened about being wrong, or choosing wrong , stop feeling disappointed, repent though, work hard to forgive yourself and seek forgiveness where needed, work harder to understand the depths of the lessons hidden in this carpet of wrong turns.

As humans it is pretty normal for us to fall prey to it, don’t be too hard on yourself though, 

learn to let go of this carpet when it’s time, 

learn to heal, 

learn to feel that things happen and life stops for no one. 

Move dear, move forward, 

move into the light that awaits , 

whether right or wrong, you will find a way. 

Stay hopeful. Stay blest.

Much love. 

I’m better me than you .

​No. 

Now you listen to me.

Listen to my words,

I’ll give you clarity.

I may burn my hair or my soul,

I may change clothes sizes or my shape,

I may give you endless reasons for me to hate,

I may ask you to stay away,

or I may seek your presence in every day,

I may throw tantrums,

and swing by my moods,

I may sway today, and slay on my roof,

I may wear baggy hillarious pjs and look like a baboon,

or I may dress like so, you may think I was born in a magic salon,

I may talk less, but my thoughts shall always be loud,

in my head, there are a million sounds,

and if I choose to ponder on a few,

then please ! don’t always think,

it could be about you.

Because may be I’m better me than you.
#becausemaybeimbettermethanyou

#leeevibes

We often try to fit in, change and adapt and follow our ideal leaders so much, that we forget that we were not born to act like a carbon copy, we will fail miserably imitating someone else.

Let them be them . You can always respect that.

And respect yourself enough so you can accept what you are.

Because being you, is easy  , and natural and effortless and incredible.

Be genuine. Be you. Love yourself. 

Respect yourself and never oppress yourself when disrespected. Let those that make you feel lesser, know that you are fire honey, and you are enough. 

Take care of yourself.

Loving oneself and priding over oneself are two different things.

Love is not self obsession. Love is being kind and respectful towards oneself without putting others down.

Your self love should make others want to love themselves too, not make them hate themselves because of how you obsess over yourself and name it self love.

Love yourself selflessly .

Be kind hearted. Always.

Stay blest.

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Be alert. Save a life.

We really need to spread more awareness. Ensure kids and all others have someone they can confide in, seek advice from. There should be counseling done without the idea of making profit but saving lives. Let’s reach out to those struggling and help them know that they aren’t alone , facing such catastrophic battles that make them quit. It’s difficult to break the barriers of a complicated overthinking mind. But having compassion and kindness and being a motivator and not a critic will help us keep our sensitivity as humans intact. If not for the betterment of our fellow beings then simply out of humanitarian responsibility. Listen when its difficult to , when words are unspoken and be there for those you can be. -Leandra.

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Attraction Distraction Obsession Destruction.

It all starts with a few stares shared. Or that head rush where you feel like you’re high and you can’t stop taking your eyes off the specimen of your interest.

From a stupid crush to the strong pulls of attraction, which often turns into fascination, and upon alil fueled flirty conversations you are likely to become obsessed to either impress or charm or seek the attention of the much wanted distraction , so you can have a twist in your stagnant boring life.

As much as crushing is a good feeling, and it is nothing evil or such, it’s just human of us to feel the pulls of the universe around, whether from a person in our vicinity or any other such object ;

but being obsessed is just another thing. Obssession comes only when you feed your crush feeling with even more strong pulls and pushes of attraction. And very often if you are not cautious , such obssession slowly takes control of the way you think, and feel, it kinda posseses you, and all you crave is that good mushy feeling all the time, the attention, the tingly beats of your heart, the head rush, the smiles that you dont keep a check on while reading a message or talking or simply checking out the object you are slowly getting obsessed with.

Mind you, unhealthy obsessions act as a trigger of self destruction . You may not realize it, but you are uneasy and unsettled and over thinking in the absence of your crush. And that often steals your peace and makes you agitated.

Remember, not all crsuhes come with a tag of love, some are just for us to live at the moment and forget. Not all attractions should be fed for you to get obsessed. And not all obsessions should you let possess you, and destroy the lil peace you have.

Unknowingly as humans we fall trap to the push and pulls of the universe, and so be conscious and know what should be fed and what should be starved. When you become too agitated in the absence of something, it is best to maintain a distance, find a good distraction and keep your mind busy, slowly the agitation will fade into nothingness given proper time.

It is the same like addiction. You are so obsessed over a thing, your brain controls your feelings and makes you believe that that particular feeling is something you need, you just need it , and you can’t do otherwise. But that’s not true. Everyone can adapt to changes and getting over an unhealthy crush or obssesion or lost love, may act as a challenge for a moment, but it isn’t something that you need, you can get over it, given time and how you starve your brain and feelings of longing or false need.

Trust me. All your brain does in this starvation phase is  make you irritated and tempts you to give in, go ahead and indulge in your crush even when you dont really get the feelings or treatment you deserve in return. It makes you want to believe that it is completely ok. That may be what you thought you deserve is overstated, and you should settle for less.

NO! DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS. NEVER EVER DO THAT TO YOURSELF.

You first treat yourself with respect, know that you deserve what you offer in total equality. Nothing less. More is an added bonus.

What attention and feelings you invest, if reciprocated in the same force you have pushed so the other pulls, then it’s quite likely that such an investment may develop into a good relationship.

But if the crises forthcoming is seen before hand, you see the symptoms of an unhealthy relationship, then stop. Get back to yourself and catch yourself before you fall into the pit you digged.

Desolation is not a nice place to live in. Being irritated and sad and having thoughts of “what’s wrong with me? Am I not good enough?” are self destroying.

You are good enough. You are enough . Accept yourself first and let no one ever make you doubt that Your totality lacks anything. You are complete and unique , not a half , not unloved. You are your own person. And your love for yourself should be on par with your respect for yourself.

Questioning what you lack is mocking your self esteem and saying you love and respect yourself but not really feeling it genuinely.
Crush blush hush.

Don’t overpull, when pushed.

No one makes you sad, if you dont let them.

Let it not stranggle your peace.

It’s not worth thinking about if it makes you self doubt.

You are worth much more then being let down.

You are enough , even when they fail to see.

You are your own, change at your will , not at the will of others.

Take it easy. Take it slow. Go with the flow.

Take care. I hope this acts as an eye opener.

Have a great day.

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I’m not cool. I choose Jesus.

I can write about my Lord so much, sometimes I can’t stop.
It’s not only a question of faith,

and I’m not a saint,

I AM JUST NOT ASHAMED TO TALK OR WRITE ABOUT HIM.
It is so sad when I see people mock faith, wear Rosary as an accessory more than a symbol of faith.

It is so sad when they mock people who talk abit about God, and call you dramatic.
Faith is losing importance day by day.

And that is even more sad.
I’m glad I’m not too caught up to look good and acceptable and cool, because that might win me a better crowd, but will surely not give me soulful peace.

In the quiet of a church or a temple, or any place of worship, there is a sense of divinity, a mystical beautiful calming feeling that allows you to sit in stillness, and the silence is not deafening. 

I’m so glad that we Christians still do have hours of holy adoration where we sit together in silent prayer before the Holy Sacrament, and for once in such moments – life is not a rat race, not making me want to run, chase or break.

It simply offers a divine peace and acceptance.
And that is something about faith.

In such moments we don’t have to be told what power there is in stillness. And yet when the numerous times we read the bible  verse “Be still” it really makes no much sense, untill you feel the holy presence our divine Lord in these moments of prayful meditation.

We listen to them sing, praise and worship, and we part take in it all, there are such moments where words spoken then hit you hard, make you want to cry down, there is depth, and you can feel the holiness of our Lord engulfing you and blanketing you. Its like magic all around, I very often am mesmerized with the feel of this. Even a person lacking faith, will start to believe in this mystical divinity.

Have faith. Be still. Feel HIM. He is near. He speaks in the silence. In the most deafening silence, the chaos is in your head, listen to your heart because He lives there, He awaits for you to acknowledge, and when you do, Silence will be the most peaceful place , you’d want to live in, with Him.

Stay blest. God bless. I will always choose my Jesus. Will you too ?
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An act of APPRECIATION.

A simple act of appreciation means that you value, regard highly, praise, admire , respect , treasure something/someone enough to make it heard/visible in words or actions.

It shows that you have a spirit of humility and compassion, and you know when to appreciate and what to.

Anything or anyone worthy of praise , should be appreciated, let not your tongue cut off what they rightfully deserve.

Appreciation is never a fake act. What might we refer as fake appreciation is over blown flattery.

​I have often come across people who lack the ability to appreciate others.

Appreciating others does not make you less important, it makes an impression that you aren’t bitter.

Is it so difficult to say two words of kindness to make someone know how you value what they do, their acts, their works, their words, can be anything .

How many times do we admire nature and are filled with wonder?

Do we ever look up and tell God , that HE is indeed an Amazing Creator ?

That His plan for us is so beautiful?

That His love for us is so deeply satisfying?

How often do we appreciate our mother’s food ? her arduous work keeping our home together? her love for always prioritizing us – her children?

How often do we appreciate our Dad for his dedication towards us ?

How often do we appreciate our siblings’ best qualities without spite ?

How often do we look at our best friend, and thank them, for their presence?

How often do we appreciate a work of art, creativity, words or any other work done ?

It is put together by someone, someone took efforts, it did help you in some way, or may be of no benefit to you , yet you took a moment to admire, does it hurt to put your admiration into words ?

If you are super beautiful or talented and filled with so much pride, you often can’t stand when others – the one’s you tag as simpletons outstanding you.

Why the bitterness? If they can appreciate your beauty, the least you could do is return the favor with kind truthful words of appreciation.

Being honest with your praise does not hurt your soul but perhaps your ego.

Appreciating or praising often is the way to water the garden of goodness in you. You can see for yourself when you learn to be more appreciative of life and people, the small difference it makes has a butterfly effect.

Small ripples make great changes.

There is power in Praise. We know that. The more we praise God , the more we see our life change for better. Do not restrict yourself to God alone. Praise God, and His creations, that also includes your-own-self . See the ripple effect of kind words and actions to God, people around and you.

Remember, if they who appreciate turn to be as bitter as your non appreciative tongue, there will remain no one someday, to appreciate what was once your ace but now the reason for your spite.

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