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Be alert. Save a life.

We really need to spread more awareness. Ensure kids and all others have someone they can confide in, seek advice from. There should be counseling done without the idea of making profit but saving lives. Let’s reach out to those struggling and help them know that they aren’t alone , facing such catastrophic battles that make them quit. It’s difficult to break the barriers of a complicated overthinking mind. But having compassion and kindness and being a motivator and not a critic will help us keep our sensitivity as humans intact. If not for the betterment of our fellow beings then simply out of humanitarian responsibility. Listen when its difficult to , when words are unspoken and be there for those you can be. -Leandra.

I came across this image on a facebook page : Knowledge factory. And felt the need to share.

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Attraction Distraction Obsession Destruction.

It all starts with a few stares shared. Or that head rush where you feel like you’re high and you can’t stop taking your eyes off the specimen of your interest.

From a stupid crush to the strong pulls of attraction, which often turns into fascination, and upon alil fueled flirty conversations you are likely to become obsessed to either impress or charm or seek the attention of the much wanted distraction , so you can have a twist in your stagnant boring life.

As much as crushing is a good feeling, and it is nothing evil or such, it’s just human of us to feel the pulls of the universe around, whether from a person in our vicinity or any other such object ;

but being obsessed is just another thing. Obssession comes only when you feed your crush feeling with even more strong pulls and pushes of attraction. And very often if you are not cautious , such obssession slowly takes control of the way you think, and feel, it kinda posseses you, and all you crave is that good mushy feeling all the time, the attention, the tingly beats of your heart, the head rush, the smiles that you dont keep a check on while reading a message or talking or simply checking out the object you are slowly getting obsessed with.

Mind you, unhealthy obsessions act as a trigger of self destruction . You may not realize it, but you are uneasy and unsettled and over thinking in the absence of your crush. And that often steals your peace and makes you agitated.

Remember, not all crsuhes come with a tag of love, some are just for us to live at the moment and forget. Not all attractions should be fed for you to get obsessed. And not all obsessions should you let possess you, and destroy the lil peace you have.

Unknowingly as humans we fall trap to the push and pulls of the universe, and so be conscious and know what should be fed and what should be starved. When you become too agitated in the absence of something, it is best to maintain a distance, find a good distraction and keep your mind busy, slowly the agitation will fade into nothingness given proper time.

It is the same like addiction. You are so obsessed over a thing, your brain controls your feelings and makes you believe that that particular feeling is something you need, you just need it , and you can’t do otherwise. But that’s not true. Everyone can adapt to changes and getting over an unhealthy crush or obssesion or lost love, may act as a challenge for a moment, but it isn’t something that you need, you can get over it, given time and how you starve your brain and feelings of longing or false need.

Trust me. All your brain does in this starvation phase is  make you irritated and tempts you to give in, go ahead and indulge in your crush even when you dont really get the feelings or treatment you deserve in return. It makes you want to believe that it is completely ok. That may be what you thought you deserve is overstated, and you should settle for less.

NO! DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS. NEVER EVER DO THAT TO YOURSELF.

You first treat yourself with respect, know that you deserve what you offer in total equality. Nothing less. More is an added bonus.

What attention and feelings you invest, if reciprocated in the same force you have pushed so the other pulls, then it’s quite likely that such an investment may develop into a good relationship.

But if the crises forthcoming is seen before hand, you see the symptoms of an unhealthy relationship, then stop. Get back to yourself and catch yourself before you fall into the pit you digged.

Desolation is not a nice place to live in. Being irritated and sad and having thoughts of “what’s wrong with me? Am I not good enough?” are self destroying.

You are good enough. You are enough . Accept yourself first and let no one ever make you doubt that Your totality lacks anything. You are complete and unique , not a half , not unloved. You are your own person. And your love for yourself should be on par with your respect for yourself.

Questioning what you lack is mocking your self esteem and saying you love and respect yourself but not really feeling it genuinely.
Crush blush hush.

Don’t overpull, when pushed.

No one makes you sad, if you dont let them.

Let it not stranggle your peace.

It’s not worth thinking about if it makes you self doubt.

You are worth much more then being let down.

You are enough , even when they fail to see.

You are your own, change at your will , not at the will of others.

Take it easy. Take it slow. Go with the flow.

Take care. I hope this acts as an eye opener.

Have a great day.

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I’m not cool. I choose Jesus.

I can write about my Lord so much, sometimes I can’t stop.
It’s not only a question of faith,

and I’m not a saint,

I AM JUST NOT ASHAMED TO TALK OR WRITE ABOUT HIM.
It is so sad when I see people mock faith, wear Rosary as an accessory more than a symbol of faith.

It is so sad when they mock people who talk abit about God, and call you dramatic.
Faith is losing importance day by day.

And that is even more sad.
I’m glad I’m not too caught up to look good and acceptable and cool, because that might win me a better crowd, but will surely not give me soulful peace.

In the quiet of a church or a temple, or any place of worship, there is a sense of divinity, a mystical beautiful calming feeling that allows you to sit in stillness, and the silence is not deafening. 

I’m so glad that we Christians still do have hours of holy adoration where we sit together in silent prayer before the Holy Sacrament, and for once in such moments – life is not a rat race, not making me want to run, chase or break.

It simply offers a divine peace and acceptance.
And that is something about faith.

In such moments we don’t have to be told what power there is in stillness. And yet when the numerous times we read the bible  verse “Be still” it really makes no much sense, untill you feel the holy presence our divine Lord in these moments of prayful meditation.

We listen to them sing, praise and worship, and we part take in it all, there are such moments where words spoken then hit you hard, make you want to cry down, there is depth, and you can feel the holiness of our Lord engulfing you and blanketing you. Its like magic all around, I very often am mesmerized with the feel of this. Even a person lacking faith, will start to believe in this mystical divinity.

Have faith. Be still. Feel HIM. He is near. He speaks in the silence. In the most deafening silence, the chaos is in your head, listen to your heart because He lives there, He awaits for you to acknowledge, and when you do, Silence will be the most peaceful place , you’d want to live in, with Him.

Stay blest. God bless. I will always choose my Jesus. Will you too ?
#leeevibes

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An act of APPRECIATION.

A simple act of appreciation means that you value, regard highly, praise, admire , respect , treasure something/someone enough to make it heard/visible in words or actions.

It shows that you have a spirit of humility and compassion, and you know when to appreciate and what to.

Anything or anyone worthy of praise , should be appreciated, let not your tongue cut off what they rightfully deserve.

Appreciation is never a fake act. What might we refer as fake appreciation is over blown flattery.

​I have often come across people who lack the ability to appreciate others.

Appreciating others does not make you less important, it makes an impression that you aren’t bitter.

Is it so difficult to say two words of kindness to make someone know how you value what they do, their acts, their works, their words, can be anything .

How many times do we admire nature and are filled with wonder?

Do we ever look up and tell God , that HE is indeed an Amazing Creator ?

That His plan for us is so beautiful?

That His love for us is so deeply satisfying?

How often do we appreciate our mother’s food ? her arduous work keeping our home together? her love for always prioritizing us – her children?

How often do we appreciate our Dad for his dedication towards us ?

How often do we appreciate our siblings’ best qualities without spite ?

How often do we look at our best friend, and thank them, for their presence?

How often do we appreciate a work of art, creativity, words or any other work done ?

It is put together by someone, someone took efforts, it did help you in some way, or may be of no benefit to you , yet you took a moment to admire, does it hurt to put your admiration into words ?

If you are super beautiful or talented and filled with so much pride, you often can’t stand when others – the one’s you tag as simpletons outstanding you.

Why the bitterness? If they can appreciate your beauty, the least you could do is return the favor with kind truthful words of appreciation.

Being honest with your praise does not hurt your soul but perhaps your ego.

Appreciating or praising often is the way to water the garden of goodness in you. You can see for yourself when you learn to be more appreciative of life and people, the small difference it makes has a butterfly effect.

Small ripples make great changes.

There is power in Praise. We know that. The more we praise God , the more we see our life change for better. Do not restrict yourself to God alone. Praise God, and His creations, that also includes your-own-self . See the ripple effect of kind words and actions to God, people around and you.

Remember, if they who appreciate turn to be as bitter as your non appreciative tongue, there will remain no one someday, to appreciate what was once your ace but now the reason for your spite.

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Zamplification !!!

to Zamplify

means : to have the zest to amplify your being.

and Zamplification is simply the zesty or enthusiastic process to amplify your entire being.

Yayyy! I have my own word now.

What does Zamplification refer to ?

We all know about the laws of attraction of the universe.

Where books say “You are the product of your thoughts.”

Bible says “Ask and you shall receive, seek & you shall find, knock & the door shall be open. ”

This is basically what you think is what you become, I do have a separate write up on it written back in 2014 – WITIWIB ( https://leannerod8.wordpress.com/2014/12/06/witiwib/  ).

So coming back to my topic of zamplification,

it is to amplify your entire being,

have you ever noticed that if you are sad, dull, negative, your life is a drag of pessimism  ?

And if you are happy, fun loving, optimistic, it’s like you are the magnet for happiness, people often tag you as a “Happy go lucky, jolly good fellow.”

So this is exactly what Zamplification is about.

To Zamplify, one must simply :

-be good to oneself

-think good about oneself

-self love, self respect, self belief, self reliance should be prioritised .

-if you are a victim of pessimism then start practicing optimism, by saying aloud positive affirmations daily , like I am happy, i am enough, I can do this, I am able, I am unique, I am a masterpiece, etc.

-What you feed your being is what you amplify, what you shall reap in the morrow depends on what you feed.

Whether food or thoughts, let it be good, healthy, and refreshing.

-Refrain from going back to the bad spots of your earlier self.

– Good is achievable, success is achievable, if you believe.


And I do believe zamplifying myself will lead me into the best definition of living life well.
Zamplification  for me is a new art of living to amplify my being by producing and harboring good positive thoughts, converting my negative energy into goal oriented plans and using the unconvertible to fuel me to become a better being.

It is a step for change.

I want to Zamplify into my best self , at every phase in my life.

(I will write more on this … an indepth study. )

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I am enough.

When I was a kid, I was hopelessly stick thin, black and looked like an unwanted ugly monkey.

Well I’m sorry I’m harsh,  but that’s what I believe I felt or was made to feel.

No matter how many tonics or foods or skirts of bukram they’d dress me with, no layers could hide away what I was.

Basically ugly. Unphotogenic.

Even though I was loved, it came with a condition of me not learning to love myself.

I was always conscious. No one bothered to teach me to love and accept myself.

On the contrary it was the exact opposite, I had to layer up in bukrams to not look like a stick or pull my unruly curly hair in tight pony tails making my head ache, only so they could think I was having a civilized upbringing.

What would have it been like , to be told then,

“darling you are beautiful with your wild hair, and caramel skin. No matter what you weigh, don’t let your heart be dismayed. We love you, and you should love every part of you.Because beauty lies within.”

Would I have learnt to love myself differently?

But it didn’t happen that way.

Self loving was and is probably a selfish thought , as per them. Knowing the way I’m brought up, I should put others  before me. Being selfless is the key to live a good life.

Is it ? Being human and selfless all the time, made me realise I’m always paying the price for disappointments and expectations. When will I learn to love, respect and accept every atom in my body ?

They don’t understand that it’s a necessity for every child to learn to accept themselves before they can accept the world as it is.

If these children haven’t conquered their inner most demons, how will they withstand the trials of this journey ? But no, fitting in was more important lesson then helping them gear up for life battles through self acceptance.

Ofcourse, as I hit puberty, my body changed, I did gain weight. And guess what , now they have words like pumpkin and fat ass for me.

The name calling never changes in time. Does it ?

You are either too thin or too fat!

what’s perfect to fit in? exactly? I never felt that, I won’t ever know what it is like to be loved for being the perfect puzzle fitting everyone’s expectations?

Even though with the weight I gained, I kinda became abit photogenic, so I’m kinda cute, not beautiful, mind you, that’s something only for the perfect shaped fair beauties. Beautiful is a word I hardly came across.

Have you ever tried telling your kid how beautiful they are, how beautiful their heart is ?

That’s a beautiful way to soar their spirit, But naaah, I’m sorry you’ll are always busy teaching them to fit in the world.

Why the hell can’t you’ll realize, that not all are meant to fit in ? Why can’t you let them be ?

Sometimes you don’t have to teach your child what is right, have faith in them, and let them decide. If you taught them well, they will do good. And if they fumble, teach them, that it is okay, that they can rise, that they are loved for what they are. They don’t have to be like someone else, rather just be themselves , the true self their spirit belongs to. Stop comparing them to their siblings and friends. Each one is different. Whilst they lack what the others have, they have something that others don’t, instead of boiling and cursing on what they lack, why can’t you appreciate what they have ?

How difficult is it ? To only say a few kind words with a warm smile, assuring them, that you accept them even if the world doesn’t.

So when I faced a tough life situation, where I had to let go of what I wanted, because it was toxic and degrading me. I was raw , and bare and cut open, with so much anxiety, pain and no self love. Always wondering what went wrong ?

What did I lack ? questioning my existence. Not having faith in my purpose ? What was I doing here ? Why am I breathing ?  Am I that unwanted? Can no one learn to love me ?

How can they , when I can’t?

I learnt it the harsh way, when I thought it was too late to, I’m not yet done learning to fully love and accept my self. But I’m working on it.

Baby steps, small steps, a step forward is a way forward.

And I tell you it isn’t selfish to self love, it is a wonderful way to self accept the inner most being you are. And that acceptance fuels your confidence and builds your belief in yourself.

It is very crucial to love oneself before you can love others. Because only then you have love within, love enough to share.

Harbor and harness that inner love, let it grow, and then you shall see the change, where you can feel the beauty gush out from within you to around you. You will have a wonderful vision of life and live even more peacefully in a world, that you need not fear, need not be forced to fit in, because you don’t have to, you can stand out, and make others believe in their true authentic self. Because that is enough. You are enough.

I am enough. More than enough.

Dear Me

Dear Me ,

Be of small words, but bigger goals.

Be humble of spirit, so at the top you shall stand mighty and bold.

Be Kind, so you spread your warmth wherever you go,

Be generous whilst giving, even if only a smile, let it reach out to those love hungry souls.

Be grateful, now and always, so at all times you remember you have more than enough.

Be resilient, it is the power to conquer your fears.

Because when you hear hurtful words,

you know the pain they cause ,

and when you see a broken spirit,

you can also see yours and so you know the time it takes to not feel distraught.

When you are treated unkindly,

you know the world out there is dangerously cold, lacking empathy.

Because you know the disappointment of not receiving smiles in a day,

One less, creates a disturbing void.

jy

Because you know that when the heart loves freely it holds nothing back,

so not receiving enough love makes you wonder , “what it is that you lack? ”

Because if you never pause, be glad and feel thankful,

you will still be the human clinging to unhealthy remorse.

If you let your desires and greed overpower you,

who will for you intercede?

Remember:

Life is not the world or what the world gives,

but rather it is you and what your soul reaps. 

Much love,

L E A N D R A .