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There’s no stranger danger.

You don’t have to befriend every human in existence.
If you don’t vibe, YOU DONT VIBE.
DON’T FORCE YOURSELF.

Sometimes being strangers or mere acquaintances is good for the both of you. This way life is more civil, less toxic, more of blessings, less of hate, negligible drama.

It is only when you feel forced to vibe with people who too feel the same, you’ll know there is this strange barrier in your head of non acceptance, Somehow your brain will try looking for flaws & specs in the other to strengthen the thought of hate or dislike into something more dangerous.
Stop. You are trespassing the negative territory. Parents should understand this, when a child is uncomfortable with your friends kids , do not force them to befriend each other, they will grow up having this animosity inside them , learning the art of pretence for your sake.

Sometime back, no matter how good a friends we are now, I faced a confession, that stuck in my mind. She said she hated me back then as I was the unwanted intruder. I got the vibes back then but what I didn’t know it was that she actually felt the whole why are you forcing to befriend her thing until now. I understand how your brain is made to adapt and adjust and how the negativity simply becomes an acceptable habbit of indifference. Now, we are simply acquaintances. And I like that. There’s nothing toxic. We respect each other, we talk and smile without a trace of ‘we haven’t spoken in ages’, it’s normal & good.
When things can be so normal, why pretend to feel indifferent when you actually force yourself to accept & gel along.
The problem with me is, I’m at this phase where I’m so calm, collected and thinking all those childhood stages, phases and understanding what was right, and what was wrong & why it was wrong.
So when time comes for me to mother my kittens, I know not to bound them to unhealthy norms of a perfectly acceptable lifestyle.

Don’t be a victim of cruelty.

Remember, you give away yourself when you only have the desire to indulge bashful deeds of prejudice.
For years, I wondered why I couldn’t fit in with some people, why I never felt a part, no matter what I did?

Why? Because one or two of them always had hurtful things to say, be it body shaming or something else, & never once did anyone stood up to them for me. Because all around they laughed, as I pretended it didn’t hurt all that much, but it did, more because those others found it funny.
Today I have all the clarity I need in life, when it comes to a tribe I can be with & includes none of you. .

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If you read this, you will feel this, you will remember those moments where I felt betrayed for accepting toxic behaviour, betrayed because I expected alil more kindness, deceived even when I tried to help.
And then, I couldn’t help much ? .
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You will remember that there were moments I went aloof.
And it’s this. I, unknowingly, began protecting what I could of what was not damaged of me yet.
So, I stood up for me & made peace with breaking free from you.
You don’t understand how much damage you do to a person with your words, because you can’t see the cracks & bruises you inflict.

Today, I have my peace and answers to the questions then. And let me tell you, I am finally alright with not having much friends, not trying to force me to fit in when I feel otherwise. I don’t need you, I never did. Not then, not now..
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I have a select few, who even if I meet after ages are still so closely bonded, I have no doubt I’ll be seeing them greying with me in the future.
I have faced many demons. And I have conquered. And I’ve tried to understand, why people are like they are. And day by day I learn something new. That everyone is healing from something or the other in ways they are discovering fit for themselves.
Stay blest.

Become accepting.

If there’s one thing I learnt from my past two workplaces is that I didn’t want anyone new joining there to feel unwelcomed.
I didn’t overdo it, trust me, but whenever I could I would try to make them feel less uncomfortable, not weird.

I very well remember my first days at the past workplaces, they didn’t know me, so yes there’s that stranger danger vibe, it takes time. But the aloofness initially was a tad bit disheartening. Like it’s not like I took a knife and went for their throats, the least expected was a smile. But all I saw was the staff murmuring together something something something about work and the newbie.

As much as everything and everyone grew on me in time, those two days I just had promised myself whenever there’s a new person recruited I would try my best to not make their first day their worst nightmare.
It’s not only about a workplace or some event or some other platform, try to make people comfortable when they around you if you sense that rigidness of mixing around, some people are shy, some people expect the worst and some are intimidated. Well there are some that be totally aloof, that’s fine, everyone is different.
If you can make some feel at ease to be themselves and make them feel accepted and not judged, do it. Be kind & accepting, because deep down everyone wants to be treated right, respectfully and cordially.
Most importantly be willing to listen and take advice from anyone and everyone, age and experience will not always credit your expertise, there’s always something to learn from everybody. Sometimes its children that teach adults that living life is more simple than the complicated scenario they think of.
Keep that pride, ego, superiority complex aside and just be human. Humanity is full of empathy, embrace it.

I welcome you…

I welcome you ;
the good , the bad,
the nasty , the sad,
the disappointing, the revealing,
the expected, the unknown,
the peaceful, the envious,
the misfortunes, the glorious,
the lessons, the blessings,
the falls, the climbs,
the moments, the memories,
the gut wrenching pain, the freedom from letting go,
the venom hissed, the healing words,
the spite, the hugs,
the hurt, the love,
the cold, the warmth,
the luxury, the necessities,
the old me, the new me,
the family, the friends,
the betrayals, the loyalty,
the kindness, the arrogance,
the small things, the finer details,
the vivid colours, the rough edges,
the death in life and the life in death.
I welcome you all.
Thank you for making my life dazzle me on.
Grateful. Extremely truly grateful..

-Leandra Rodrigues.

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“I”

You define your existence & identity (I am), .
you define your capabilities (I can),
You define your willingness to adhere to your vows /promises (I will),
You define you, your life, your destiny.. .
(Don’t let this hit your head , because the greatest “I AM ” is “GOD” -its clearly stated in the Bible. So, No mistaking yourself for God. So all that you affirm is a blessing from God.) .
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Be very careful of what your “I” follows,
because even mid sentence,
it has the most importance,
even other pronouns like “me” and “you” are not given that privilege of being capital.
No one really knows why !

What is it about Falling ?

While falling has always been looked upon as an act of downfall or shame or mockery, there are these invisible falls that people have time & again, and I want you, who understands what I mean right here, to know even when you physically fall, even if no one helps you or holds you back, and even if the ground hurts and bruises you or you might have had a much major critical impact, just remember to be grateful for alil while when you can, because it held you, it embraced you and it took all the curses for all your bruises.
It was hurt too, the impact is never one sided, there will always be a two dimensional impact when energy strikes.
Similarly, in your subconscious falls, your soul will always hold you. Recognize your inner ground & be grateful that you have a home within you.
Sometimes what I write is not for everyone to make sense & I get that. Some even think I’m crazy & my writings are musings of madness. Thanks that some make it known to me that I can be figuratively a topic of your humor. But I want you, if you are reading this , to know there is more than just one out there who has found alil peace and connection reading just what I wrote. And that for me is more than enough. Nothing is gibberish. Everything has meaning. And no one has to live life as per opinions and expectations of someone else . Live life as you wish & feel it like.
Drown in your own madness, for its not misery , it’s a search for something deeper, something immaterial, something stronger & firmer & surreal.
Life is not alone about jobs & money making, it’s more about love, discovering, finding, gratitude & adventures of hopeful crazy.

Remember :
And still the earth accepts our falls,
welcoming the impacts.
They say pain makes you hard & cold.
If you don’t believe in surreal, supernatural & the magic of the universe, then you certainly aren’t a believer of blessings & God & his mighty plans.

Me as an Empath.

Somehow there’s more than just hope now, there’s a sense of going happily crazy discovering who I am, what are my limits & understanding the deeper purpose of my existence. And Somehow I just so damn well know.. “THERE’S MORE TO ME , THAN I CAN SEE OR I AM STARING TOO LONG AT, BUT WHAT AM I LOOKING AT & WHAT SHOULD I LOOK FOR ? ”

You can fool yourself to feel miserable and utterly overjoyed over perpetual reasons which are mind made up traps of playing the victim or just a veil darned for pretence of forcing you and all around of what an incredibly happy bird you are, you can always chirp , chirp & chirp, every season.

Sometimes we need the quiet (meditation) to realise if what we are and where we are is realistic or forced pretentious bubbles of non acceptance of reality subconsciously.

Stubbornness cannot be controlled unless you know what are you truly stubborn about, do you know ?

No! I DON’T PITY YOU. ON THE CONTRARY, I RESPECT YOU.
Pain is such a beautiful thing to happen to us, it makes you wiser .
A life with none would do you no good,
but again there is just no life with none of it.

It will touch you,a tiny sliver enough to cut a gash too deep. Just enough to give you a good tough shipwreck.
Hello there sailor, panic isn’t an option.
And I won’t ask you to be brave either,
do what you must, if you haven’t learn’t to deal with adversaries before you are hit than adversaries will teach you how to deal with it.

And remember nothing happens to you without it having a wonderful defining meaning to your life. The good, the bad, all alike.

You can lose what you dont expect to and gain what you don’t intend to, and yet , I want you to halt there AFTER a good healthy grieving , to look out for the other side of the coin you are so stubborn to not give a looking.

I see you , wanting help but not really asking, I see wanting to help and not knowing how, may my words reach you :
“YOU are beautiful, amazing and a vibrant soul. Your pain is defining you. The furnace will burn you. But it will also mould you. Don’t give up thinking it’s the end, smile , because there’s just a new journey right there, waiting for you to turn and take a chance and plunge into another breathtaking adventure. Life will give you all the colors you’ll need, and no one will paint your masterpiece so refulgent, than you, yes you, you alone. ”

We often hear people telling us, “let your pain and failures not define you”.
But I want to tell you,
” Let it define you, let it mould you, and may you find the courage to see how uplifting it is for it’s true worth. Do not go by what the world claims, it calls pain trash and failures setbacks & crap, but no, it is so much more than just a mere rock, inside of which is the most purely formed and distinctively created jewel.”