Don’t be a victim of cruelty.

Remember, you give away yourself when you only have the desire to indulge bashful deeds of prejudice.
For years, I wondered why I couldn’t fit in with some people, why I never felt a part, no matter what I did?

Why? Because one or two of them always had hurtful things to say, be it body shaming or something else, & never once did anyone stood up to them for me. Because all around they laughed, as I pretended it didn’t hurt all that much, but it did, more because those others found it funny.
Today I have all the clarity I need in life, when it comes to a tribe I can be with & includes none of you. .

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If you read this, you will feel this, you will remember those moments where I felt betrayed for accepting toxic behaviour, betrayed because I expected alil more kindness, deceived even when I tried to help.
And then, I couldn’t help much ? .
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You will remember that there were moments I went aloof.
And it’s this. I, unknowingly, began protecting what I could of what was not damaged of me yet.
So, I stood up for me & made peace with breaking free from you.
You don’t understand how much damage you do to a person with your words, because you can’t see the cracks & bruises you inflict.

Today, I have my peace and answers to the questions then. And let me tell you, I am finally alright with not having much friends, not trying to force me to fit in when I feel otherwise. I don’t need you, I never did. Not then, not now..
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I have a select few, who even if I meet after ages are still so closely bonded, I have no doubt I’ll be seeing them greying with me in the future.
I have faced many demons. And I have conquered. And I’ve tried to understand, why people are like they are. And day by day I learn something new. That everyone is healing from something or the other in ways they are discovering fit for themselves.
Stay blest.

Become accepting.

If there’s one thing I learnt from my past two workplaces is that I didn’t want anyone new joining there to feel unwelcomed.
I didn’t overdo it, trust me, but whenever I could I would try to make them feel less uncomfortable, not weird.

I very well remember my first days at the past workplaces, they didn’t know me, so yes there’s that stranger danger vibe, it takes time. But the aloofness initially was a tad bit disheartening. Like it’s not like I took a knife and went for their throats, the least expected was a smile. But all I saw was the staff murmuring together something something something about work and the newbie.

As much as everything and everyone grew on me in time, those two days I just had promised myself whenever there’s a new person recruited I would try my best to not make their first day their worst nightmare.
It’s not only about a workplace or some event or some other platform, try to make people comfortable when they around you if you sense that rigidness of mixing around, some people are shy, some people expect the worst and some are intimidated. Well there are some that be totally aloof, that’s fine, everyone is different.
If you can make some feel at ease to be themselves and make them feel accepted and not judged, do it. Be kind & accepting, because deep down everyone wants to be treated right, respectfully and cordially.
Most importantly be willing to listen and take advice from anyone and everyone, age and experience will not always credit your expertise, there’s always something to learn from everybody. Sometimes its children that teach adults that living life is more simple than the complicated scenario they think of.
Keep that pride, ego, superiority complex aside and just be human. Humanity is full of empathy, embrace it.

Me as an Empath.

Somehow there’s more than just hope now, there’s a sense of going happily crazy discovering who I am, what are my limits & understanding the deeper purpose of my existence. And Somehow I just so damn well know.. “THERE’S MORE TO ME , THAN I CAN SEE OR I AM STARING TOO LONG AT, BUT WHAT AM I LOOKING AT & WHAT SHOULD I LOOK FOR ? ”

You can fool yourself to feel miserable and utterly overjoyed over perpetual reasons which are mind made up traps of playing the victim or just a veil darned for pretence of forcing you and all around of what an incredibly happy bird you are, you can always chirp , chirp & chirp, every season.

Sometimes we need the quiet (meditation) to realise if what we are and where we are is realistic or forced pretentious bubbles of non acceptance of reality subconsciously.

Stubbornness cannot be controlled unless you know what are you truly stubborn about, do you know ?

No! I DON’T PITY YOU. ON THE CONTRARY, I RESPECT YOU.
Pain is such a beautiful thing to happen to us, it makes you wiser .
A life with none would do you no good,
but again there is just no life with none of it.

It will touch you,a tiny sliver enough to cut a gash too deep. Just enough to give you a good tough shipwreck.
Hello there sailor, panic isn’t an option.
And I won’t ask you to be brave either,
do what you must, if you haven’t learn’t to deal with adversaries before you are hit than adversaries will teach you how to deal with it.

And remember nothing happens to you without it having a wonderful defining meaning to your life. The good, the bad, all alike.

You can lose what you dont expect to and gain what you don’t intend to, and yet , I want you to halt there AFTER a good healthy grieving , to look out for the other side of the coin you are so stubborn to not give a looking.

I see you , wanting help but not really asking, I see wanting to help and not knowing how, may my words reach you :
“YOU are beautiful, amazing and a vibrant soul. Your pain is defining you. The furnace will burn you. But it will also mould you. Don’t give up thinking it’s the end, smile , because there’s just a new journey right there, waiting for you to turn and take a chance and plunge into another breathtaking adventure. Life will give you all the colors you’ll need, and no one will paint your masterpiece so refulgent, than you, yes you, you alone. ”

We often hear people telling us, “let your pain and failures not define you”.
But I want to tell you,
” Let it define you, let it mould you, and may you find the courage to see how uplifting it is for it’s true worth. Do not go by what the world claims, it calls pain trash and failures setbacks & crap, but no, it is so much more than just a mere rock, inside of which is the most purely formed and distinctively created jewel.”

Gentle voice of mine.

Well sometimes we are faced with both the voice, one that snaps at any progress and makes us believe it’s still less,
and one that pushes us with a gentle voice forward and reminds us each tiny lil step counts.
While you’ll need the harsher one to give you a taste of reality and be your own fair judge, and mentally make plans on how to approach the situation, with worst case scenario and best possible strategies .
There will also be that voice that will tell you to calm down and breathe and take one day at a time. And this is the voice that you need to prioritize.

Often with the lifestyle we are so engaged in, this voice is like a tiny freckle in the space around us, most often it’s the “not good enough” blowing away the hidden sips of joys that breeze through your way.
Take time to understand and to listen to both of them, and then pay more attention to the one that is more gentle on you.
Because through the narrow gentlest stream gushes the most pure, ferocious and magnificent river.

All that snapping and negative motivation will sometimes be alil too harsh on those already wearing out nerves, learn the art of mindfulness. That life is right where you are, breathe it. Don’t chase it, because it’s not something you chase , it’s something you absorb, something you cherish , something you observe and feel and live.

Stay blest.

Art heals.

Well when I look at this,
I see rage, hatred, frustrations and the need to stab.

The poor paper took all the wrath and turned all that negativity that was killing me on a bad day (that I can’t recall at all at the moment.), into something beautiful.
The days of the breakthrough.

Honestly now that I think of it, art has helped me grow so much into being more at peace with my soul.

Bad days don’t last. And in time you won’t even remember them. You won’t remember feeling hurt or agitated or needing to face punch anyone.

You will forgive but sometimes not forget.

You will find peace and smile at the raging storms.

Somehow all that happens to you is the best thing happening to you.

The good, the bad, the falls, the climb, the soaring or the passive times,
everything , everything is needed to shape you.
We feel that sometimes some right things dont happen to us at the time we feel is right.
But that’s your head pushing you to think and believe that. That is you wanting to be treated at someone else’s clock. No! Their time is not your time. Their life is not your life.
Your Destiny is yours and the life you make is also yours.
Learn to keep the line and be mindful always to remember to not cross this.
Don’t muddle with the boundaries of want and desires, and needs and wishes and hopes, and what is realistically happening at a pace you should accept willingly.
Believe that good things are happening, work on greater better things, work on you. Always.

Turn all that negativity into productivity. For me painting helps with that aspect. Find your channel of rooting this energy into something magical and healing. Invest that sulking time into something that gives ypu immense peace. You will find that solace, keep looking , be observant of what makes you smile, happy and peaceful.

Every day is a journey of learning something new from you, from new & old people , from nature, from God, from things that our ordinary lives hold and bring to us.

Stop judging you and stop judging everyone. That’s the enemy that keeps breaking in to make you feel restless.

Stay blest.

A moment…

Pause. Stay still. 

In a nanosecond we decide the swings of our life. 

Period. 

Living in the now we sometimes fail to realize the speed of time. 

Going with the flow will not always give you your dreams. 

Working on achieving them against the velocity of time will give you the much needed edge for a productive living.

Everyday take a step towards these dreams. 

Every damn day. 

A nanosecond to make a choice.

A lifetime to cherish the memories of such brilliant choices.

Stay blest. 

Rock your year. 

Stay focused and grounded.

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Dear Miss 24,

Dear Miss 24,

As frightening as this phase in the unknown is, and let’s not forget the increasing societal pressures of things I’d rather not delve into at the moment,

Take a breath. Stay calm.
Saying aloud that you’ve already grown past two decades, is tough if you make it feel so.

Age is what but just a number that will remind you how much in experience and maturity you have grown. Let it not bother you because it bothers the society around. 

Let’s accept the fact that you are here, right this moment, right where you are planted to grow or to bloom, to sprout or to remain still.
Be still in this moment, Love, for life can be as complicated as you make it. 

Even though you sometimes overthink, know that everything shall pass. Someday you won’t remember what bothered you in the yesters. 

And tomorrow’s worries have never made your day any brighter.
How about you focus on the goals on your checklist?

There’s lots to do, lots to achieve, and such exciting places to be.
It’s not a storm anymore , beloved. 

It’s life. And dont make it a battlefield 

until your sole focus is victory. 

Live life in the now, the present, however tough that may seem.
You don’t have to feel obliged to be good and go out of your way, when you know very well, you still have to learn to say ‘No’, try to figure out how to deal with the negativity that follows your refusals. 

Also note those who turn bitter when you say no , and you know you aren’t wrong to do so, then do not fall prey to fake emotional torments, but stand by yourself, you deserve to make your own decisions, and ought to let go of people who stick by you for want of something that degrades you and your self esteem. If they stick to you regardless, there’s no ulterior motive there, be not afraid to vibe.
Sometimes it’s how you treat yourself that matters more than how anyone around will treat you.
Self love my dear soul, self love will help redeem the scars of the many “I am not enoughs” your mind is filled with.
For now, as you still embark on a journey to inspire, 

to create something with your fire and to grab those goals you’ve always dreamt of, let’s ensure your soul never ever tires.
Your’s always,

Leandra.

Dear Me

Dear Me ,

Be of small words, but bigger goals.

Be humble of spirit, so at the top you shall stand mighty and bold.

Be Kind, so you spread your warmth wherever you go,

Be generous whilst giving, even if only a smile, let it reach out to those love hungry souls.

Be grateful, now and always, so at all times you remember you have more than enough.

Be resilient, it is the power to conquer your fears.

Because when you hear hurtful words,

you know the pain they cause ,

and when you see a broken spirit,

you can also see yours and so you know the time it takes to not feel distraught.

When you are treated unkindly,

you know the world out there is dangerously cold, lacking empathy.

Because you know the disappointment of not receiving smiles in a day,

One less, creates a disturbing void.

Because you know that when the heart loves freely it holds nothing back,

so not receiving enough love makes you wonder , “what it is that you lack? ”

Because if you never pause, be glad and feel thankful,

you will still be the human clinging to unhealthy remorse.

If you let your desires and greed overpower you,

who will for you intercede?

Remember:

Life is not the world or what the world gives,

but rather it is you and what your soul reaps. 

Much love,

L E A N D R A .

 

 

Flawed, broken and beautiful.

Something about this is beautiful and relatable.

Everyone is beautiful.

Everyone is flawed.

And Everyone is broken.

Some will never accept,

Some will.

Everyone feels the power of healing in time, 

and peace that nature offers.

Everyone matures after trials and tribulations,

and Everyone changes.

Some turn bitter ,

Some turn sweeter.

Some grow numb,

Some dare to defeat life.

But life is not a gamble to win.

It is what we are , where we stand and where we go.

As we take bits of what’s offered and leave behind bits that burden us,

We renew ourselves unknowingly at every phase, every turn and every twist.

Living bitter makes you thirsty for happiness,

But happiness is a state of mind.

It is only achieved when your heart and mind are in oneness, in peace, in your inner calm.

You can be happy if you choose 

to not be bitter, but forgiving, 

to be patient and loving,

be kind, but cautious,

be good and brave,

be mature enough to live ,

knowing , understanding and believing in your self worth.

Not what others believe and evaluate.

But what you do.

Your belief of you , sets you apart.

Make that belief strong, withstanding and overpowering your pessimistic notions,

So strong that you are your own shield and sword.

Such a belief that sets you free.

#15 Random thought of the day

​This world is too brutal to be too good. 

Do good for your people. People you know. 

No one is judging you. Even if they do, it’s only fitting to not give a damn.

Because there are a heap of heartless people out there wanting to take advantage of the vulnerable, of those who wish to do good by going out of their way. 

I am not anti-humanitarian.

All I’m saying is, be wise enough to know where good needs to be done. 

Enhance and nuture your goodness, without being taken advantage of.

Do not be too much of a novice in your own goodness, to not see the monsters lurking around waiting to pounce on you.

There is a limit to everything. Know the boundaries. Spread your goodness and good vibes, but dont make it toxic.

It’s simple if you know when to say “NO” and stop.