Lesson 3 – The Conflict

Sometimes you have to face bitterness in life…. Everything can’t be sweet and sugary always.

“Too much sugar – Bad for health.”

Too much happiness will not make you understand the deeper meaning of life.

To understand the real meaning of one we need to learn the meaning of the opposite.

Your life can’t always have shades of red, pink , green and yellow.. you’ll have to deal with shades of black, blue, grey and brown as well.

Remember all shades together make the rainbow beautiful. How would the rainbow look with only the shades of red? No green, no yellow, no blue, no violet, no indigo? …. Weirdly not thrilling right?

Just like a rainbow gives you a smile… Smile through all the colors of your life.

You can cry over the blues…………. Hide through the blacks….. Run through the reds………….. Smile through the pinks…… Think wonderful all through the greens..

You have the color palette in your hand. Paint your life canvas the way you love it best.. Have loads of fun.. but also make your life an eventful adventure..

Make sure you get to ‘the pot of golden coins‘ at the end of your rainbow.. Cause we all do have a pot of coins awaiting us. These coins are your acts that can make you richer than the finest gold.

Act Wisely.

There is nothing wrong in being bitter to those who can’t cope with your sweetness. But why give the poison back to the poison maker? Do you really think he won’t know how to deal with such a deadly poison? Don’t make yourself the poison for others!

Why not instead you stop the over-sweetness and be the one person you are, that can drive away the poison makers– with the flare of indifference your behavior depicts and detain around you those who’s demeanor shouts loyalty?

Life is a colorful rainbow.. Drink in its beauty all that it showers over you.

Create a robustness about you that can hurtle the bitterness the world shoves your way, beneath the very ground you place your feet on.

Never bemoan of being yourself. Be proud. Stand Strong. Hit the storms headfirst. Live your life the way you feel right. But make sure the right ain’t the wrong.

Take no offense when you are being judged for free, remember you didn’t pay , neither did you ask. So don’t waste time over hypocrites and their cheap judgement, they can’t afford you.

And also don’t forget that Just Judges are the most expensive ones. And the One Above all is GOD.

Do what is righteous. Even when the right feels wrong and the wrong feels right.

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What happened???

From a baby nestled in her mother’s arms
To a toddler crawling on the floor…
A toothy grin… or a wail so loud..
Thundering the neighbors’ doors.
What happened?

Like a child running all around..
Yelping, screaming or pouting …
Laughing, giggling or dancing..
Singing, dreaming and grinning..
What happened?

Crushing secretly.. sighing..
Admiring the temptations..
Tasting the fatal “Don’ts”
Oh the Teenage dramatic moans!
What happened?

Basking in the sun of youthfulness..
Growing over and above ..
Learning , changing, accepting..
Hurting, smiling, Still sailing..
What happened?

Aging in time… growing by mind..
Older we be… solving the mysteries..
Crying, grumbling, loosing faith..
Or rather- rising, smiling with courage!
What happened?

Memories rush.. everything’s hushed..
Echoing deep.. something leaps..
Agonizing puzzles.. silent storms..
Victorious glory.. happy songs..
What happened?

Don’t we all come across such moments… when we wonder:
“What the hell happened?”     “How did I reach this far?”                    “How did I change?”    “How did life change?”
Life is a nasty road… You gotta go up… sometimes even fall down..Rise again, crumble again. Smile or cry or wail or say “WHY?”
All good things , do come to an end. Not always there’s a happy ending. Silent storms help you become stronger.

Whatever happens/happened, whether you like/liked it or not – doesn’t matter, it has/had to happen, not only because it is/was meant to be but also because you are/were meant to grow over your weaknesses, find your courage, learn to rebel and learn to appreciate not just life but yourself.

Trace your life backward and you’ll see the way everything has changed.

Take time to ponder on “What all happened?”
Its nice to read your own life; smile over the times you acted stupid , impulsive, foolish or stubborn; be proud over the decisions you took, the resolutions you stood by, the many wishes you made, the dreams  that you made sure become your reality; the times you let your wounds heal; the times you learnt a lesson -maybe a hardway; the times you realised what made you special; the times you felt ten times your age; the times you smiled even when you crumbled within; the times you were simply happy…..
In all the agonising moments, we fail to remember the many many happy moments we had. Count such moments. Count the number of times you smile a day. Count the many blessings you have. Count the many breaths you have taken so far and well, aren’t you still breathing? Count the many times you were saved from looming storms. Count the many times you almost gave up, but something/ someone didn’t let you give in. COUNT.
Once you count. You’ll know what happened!

Be happy. Its life. You get what you deserve. Nothing more. Nothing Less. Even if its a frightening storm, know it will pass, know you can handle it. Enjoy every phase of life. These are the seasons that once slipped never come back. And once lived are enough. The little you have is much more than many can have.

Small moments you live make life easier, cause big moments are a rare catch. Everyone plays this game called life, all get fair chances, fair lifelines, fair choices and fair breaks.

Play it well…. whilst you always remember to enjoy.

Perfection- Not mine to claim!

What is it with us trying to see perfection in everything & anything? We expect our neighbor to be flawless… don’t we? Like do this ..do that .. and never do anything wrong to us? Oh please! Are we all perfect? How can we expect perfection from others when we can’t claim it for ourselves? Do you really think you are perfect? That you can do things flawlessly? Is that so? Ok than tell me what’s perfect about you? What work have you flawlessly done? Have you been fair to all people you meet? Do you think you have no flaws at all? Haven’t you committed mistakes?

The spec in our vision while pointing the flaws of others is actually the flaw in us. Mathew 7:3 ” Why do you see the chip in your brother’s eye, and not notice the plank in your own eye?”

There are many moments when we fail to see what is wrong with us , but we very much love to see the flaws in the others- true right?

Sometimes criticism comes handy. ‘Take it’ from people who assess you. ‘See’ if it is true or not. ‘Discard’ what doesn’t belong to you. ‘Treat’ what does-‘ patiently’. ‘Change’ yourself if it can make you something better -accordingly.

Mind you:- you gotta learn to deal with criticism the best way. If you are too sensitive than you’re not the best user of it, but you’ll simply end up abusing yourself further. So strive to be stronger and insensitive to things you’re better off -without sparing a second thought to.

We can all strive for perfection. But perfection is really not our’s claim. There is a flaw in everything. It could be so minute that our normal vision doesn’t allow us to see it. The only Perfection is GOD- the most Divine presence.

I know this could be ironical to most of our thoughts. You could possibly argue saying what about the perfect paintings and Sculptures and monuments and stuff? Well, all I’ll say is. Things can be near-to-perfect. We end up tagging them perfect anyway. Even I do. Like tagging a blissful day as the most perfect ever. It’s not wrong. Cause in our human vision, since we havn’t seen the true perfection, anything alil more than the best amazing thing happened to us- becomes perfection for us. It’s normal. But in true sense- Perfection is something more than we can understand, see or imagine. 39b1f2415024daf1759b1359d6c84677

Some flaws we have are something that actually define us. Its wise not to even try to get rid of such. Because -they distinguish us from the others. They form a part of our unique identity. Loving our imperfections, and striving to be perfect, knowing we cannot be truly perfect, but we can of course be Near-to-perfect—Is how we can be better than simply imperfect.

We can try to be like God. But we cannot be God.

Life is a cluster of imperfect and near perfect moments and things. Weave it all soundly. And you might as well have a fine design before you. Enjoy weaving.

Life is a Bumpy bus ride

I’m sure we all have had a bus ride, have had a window seat, or stood among the crowd in the narrow pass it provides. What all happens in there ? Sometimes we have to sit beside people perhaps we would never like to deal with. Sometimes we meet people who have a great impact on us within a few moments. Sometimes we look out the window and gaze at the nature sprinting past us. When the bus stops we feel stuck too and wait for it to move on and drop us to our destination. Sometimes we meet rude people as well as sweet ones.

When we were small we would think that it isn’t the bus moving forward but the nature outside that is running on and we are stationery.

Now you’ll will be wondering why am I bringing up the topic of a bus.  Right?

Well that’s simply because I relate LIFE to a bus ride.

A bus ride is a journey from where we are to where we wish to go or rather be. Isn’t life the same?

Life is a bumpy bus ride. It’s never a smooth one (if we remember our roads ). There are so many ups and downs. So many potholes jerking us from our seats or making us jump. Not always there’s a promise of a comfy seat. Not always will there be a companion you can think of as a friendly stranger. There are bound to be moments when you meet the wrong or people you’d not rather share a seat with.

There are those whom you can help out- how? giving your seat or carrying their luggage or standing up for them when you think you should. Don’t we do this in life? Helping out those who mean something to us? try to share their laughter and sorrows? help them carry their burdens? advice them? fight ? Sometimes even give up something we love or something that gives us comfort for those who we can do good to? Give away a smile? Or a daring stare to those with ruthless eyes?

There are spectators everywhere whether a bus ride or life. People are bound to judge you or criticize whether in their minds or on your face. Just remember that they like you are having a bumpy bus ride too, so keep calm and hold up your shield against such attacks and just stay aloof and do your work. Waste no energy or time on something so reckless and unworthy. If you know your worth and what you are, am sure no sly comments or thoughts should be enough to make lose your cool.

“Do what you Love. Love what you do.”

What you see sprinting past you become memories you leave behind. You may forget most of the journey except for somethings that will be unforgettable.

MEMORIES CAN NEVER BE FORGOTTEN whether GOOD or BAD.  All you have to learn is how to deal with them, as and when you face flashbacks. The best way is to accept and chase them back and not run away from.

One last thing, YOU ARE NEVER STUCK IN LIFE. No matter how much you feel you are. Confused maybe. But never stuck. Just like the bus keeps moving on stops here and there and finally drops you off at your destination. Same-way in life, you perhaps take some halts here and there, collect yourself, learn something, let go of somethings, amuse yourself over the drama and the role you play and so on. In all this, whether you’re happy or sad- you keep walking on- Accept it or not. But you do.

Life is a Journey that stops only when You reach your Destination.

The more breaks you take or the many times you space out thinking you’re stuck or confused, the more farther will your destination be.

So if you wish to make it shorter and pleasant. Stop spacing out. Get a grip. Learn fast. Accept without denial. Run (forward) if you have to. Don’t walk backwards, it’s pointless unless you wish to start all over again on the same route from square one and delay all the more crossing the finish line. Walking back is accepting defeat at the hands of failure. Don’t be a loser. Hold yourself and step forward . Accept failure as a lesson.

Every failure helps you master the art to succeed. Deal with your problems without lamenting and complaining. Prioritize your wants, dreams and wishes and goals. Plan your journey.

Just like the stops the bus takes, make the stops of your life short. Let go of the people who would be better out your life. Let them leave when it’s time. Welcome the  new faces. Enjoy the journey.

Live life with a fever of Never backing down -of not clinging to your comfort zones.

Swing in the adventures. Jump high. Fall back. Climb up. Take risks. But only risks you can afford. Don’t Blow up. Make it worth. But in it all “Listen to your heart .” Do not make decisions to please but take decisions to Live better.

Rekindle the flame of goodness in you. Even a small spark is magical. You’ll live without regrets. You will live in harmony with the positive vibes. A wonderful key to an optimistic life.

When you reach your destination, if you made the journey worth it – You will carry this with you till your last. But if you didn’t- then it adds up to the meaningless things you pile up.

Your LIFE DEFINES YOU- so make sure the definition is good enough.

ONLY YOU CAN DO IT . So Dear Master of your own-Life, Enjoy the bumpy Ride.

Lesson 2 – Acknowledge The Presence Within

My feet kept running from door to door

Tears gushing down evermore

and I still couldn’t answer the question haunting me , “Where do I go? “

My mind kept shouting ‘RUN … ESCAPE’

Would it feel better drowning in some lake?

and then I heard her scream ” STOP RUNNING PLEASE, AT LEAST FOR MY SAKE.”

Who do you think screamed?  there wasn’t anyone around, then?

Sometimes when you walk around and see people sing alone or talk to them-self , Do you find that weird? Do you think you never do that? Like your lost in your own world and your mom asks you to go get something from the grocery shop, and then you keep grumbling all way down there or you entertain yourself with a little speech??

Tsssk Tssssk .. now don’t say you never do that! There are definitely endless moments when you talk to yourself and sometimes you don’t even realize this.

SPEAK TO YOURSELF WHENEVER YOU WISH.

Its not called madness. It simply is – giving yourself a priority, ACKNOWLEDGING YOUR VERY PRESENCE.

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081e09a20fd86c9871d89d6bd0cd3133TELL YOURSELF WHAT YOU FEEL! ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOU WANT?  indulge in a self talk. UNDERSTAND AND LISTEN TO YOUR INNER SPIRIT – YOUR SOUL. It has a voice- DO NOT SUPPRESS IT terming it as an act of madness.

When you die, you are no longer called by your name, they call you “BODY”-  ever been at a funeral? heard people talk? – “Yes they brought the body home……..”

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UNDERSTAND THIS FACT.

NURTURE YOUR SOUL instead of bashing around loving your mortal being.

YOUR SOUL IS YOUR POWERHOUSE. Open yourself and welcome its presence , and you will never feel alone.

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We are too busy dealing with life that we never realize that it is the soul that is actually in the battlefield.

DO NOT SUCCUMB TO your WEAKNESSES  and  NEVER MAKE YOUR SPIRIT-  YOUR WEAKNESS.

Feed it with love, courage and understanding  and you will never fear the wounds to your mortal being.

YOU HAVE IT IN YOU TO SMILE THROUGH THE DARKEST STORMS.

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YOU HAVE IT IN YOU TO LIVE WITHOUT GIVING UP .

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DEFEAT AND FAILURE SHOULD NEVER BE ENOUGH TO BREAK YOUR SPIRIT.

“THRIVE ON THIS SPIRIT AND LET IT THRIVE IN YOU.”

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Lest in any occasion of falling, should you be afraid, remind yourself that :

“MY  SPIRIT  WILL  NEVER  BREAK even after FALLING  A  MILLION  TIMES, IT  WILL  ONLY  GROW  STRONGER!  CAUSE  MY  SPIRIT IS  NOT  OF  FEAR  BUT  OF  LIGHT!”

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LESSON 1- Lets get a few things on track……

I break and then hustle…

I fall and again stumble…

hmmmmphh …..I wonder “WHY??? why only me?” ..

then I hear them say “You oughta learn to say ‘Life try me'”

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  Watch a toddler learning to stand. He falls and falls , cries and screams, and sometimes also laughs from within—-

Does he give up?  NO

Should you? must you? How many times have you fallen? Did you keep a count? Is it hard to remember? Are you still stuck at that spot where once you fell? have you counted the miles since you moved on? 

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YOU ARE NEVER STUCK IN LIFE. TIME AND LIFE KEEP MOVING ON. WHAT PERHAPS IS STUCK- IS YOUR MINDSET. DON’T BE A PRISONER TO THE PAST OR TO THE MANY FALLS YOU HAD/ HAVE / WILL FACE. SET YOUR MIND FREE.

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RESOLVE AND KNOW THAT NO MATTER HOW MANY FALLS, YOU STILL NEED TO RISE, SOMETIMES THERE WON’T BE ANYONE TO HELP. YOU CAN’T KEEP CRYING ABOUT IT. SO KINDLY DO THE HONOURS TO RISE and DUST OFF THE REMINDERS OF YOUR FALL. MOVE ON.

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If you’re wounded- Remember WOUNDS DO HEAL. If you say- sometimes scars remain.. then “Come on TOUGHY, treasure it like an achievement. Wear it off. Flaunt it. Fall in love with it.It is the tattoo of your strength.

Whether visible to human eye 

or not.

CHANGE  YOUR  ATTITUDE  TOWARDS  EVERYTHING THAT DEGRADES  YOUR  SPIRIT.

You cannot escape the falls you’ll face in life. Each time you fall try to change your  vision to see only the good in it. If you still can’t. Laugh at it. But stop grieving, STOP LETTING IT BOTHER YOU, stop   cursing, STOP SELF PITY.

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EVERYTHING IS A CHOICE.

You want to be happy?  CHOOSE happiness.

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You want to stop Self Pity? CHOOSE to give yourself some RESPECT.

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CHOOSE to treat yourself BETTER than any other.

CHOOSE to Rise when you Fall.

CHOOSE to Smile amidst all agony.

CHOOSE TO SOAR YOUR SPIRIT- TO LIGHTEN YOURSELF.

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CHOOSE to be the self you can LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.

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So let’s get something RIGHT!!

YOU  AND  YOU  ALONE  HOLD  THE  KEY  TO  YOUR HAPPINESS.

Do not give it away and then regret.

Nostalgia…..

Screenshot_2014-04-04-16-16-02  And When I walk down the traveled lane..

I come across memories perfect & lame..

I watch it like a movie in Rewind motion..

Thus further drowning in this nostalgic notion..

Beautiful memories make me smile..

Oh how I know they’ll keep me warm for thousand miles..

And then What I see makes me twice blink and further think..

In those moments had I been afraid..

Why didn’t I ask myself “what would have I done hadn’t I let that fear over me cascade?

Would Life be the same?

If my fears had I tamed?”

I see the mistakes I committed and the downfalls I had..

The challenges I accepted and the lost opportunities I never before cared!

I also see that part of me who thinks she’s free.. but never was..

Laughter was indeed there and all of it wasn’t as bad.. but now that I see more clearly.. there’s a lot messed and tossed..

They say “LIVE WITHOUT GRUDGES , HOLD NO REGRETS.”

I say ,” Smile at all the bad, Let go and Walk along to see what better in Life you can get!

and so I move on, chucked all the bad behind a wall,

Carrying with me all that will help me when I face times where I’ll crawl..

Good & Bad I’ll always see.. Small & Big life will make me..

Why not I put a seal on Life’s package deal?

And in all it’s grandeur .. I could as well fairly LIVE in splendor..

Words. Some false. Some harshly true. – Let it cast a magical spell. Over me and you..!!

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