Have you seen kids nowadays ? So conscious of how they look, what they wear ?
Not just kids. It is everybody and anybody.
The world is raving about losing weight to stay fit, or getting fairness creams to change the colour of your skin. I mean, ofcourse there’s a miraculous formula to fight the Melanin in your skin. Like seriously.
Apply this oil to lose cellulite,
follow that diet to lose weight,
take this supplement for an alert brain,
Have this tea to relax,
And bla bla bla bla blaaaaaaa.
Maybe some of the things do work out for some people. But not for all.
The main point here is :
Why isn’t there any initiative taken to help people to learn to love themselves first ? To help them accept themselves? To help them learn to love their edges ? Fat or thin or fair or dark or normal or psychic or smart or beautiful or lacking what the world has on its endless racist and discriminative list of perfection?
Why is it so difficult to accept our kids the way they are ? Have you ever paused and thought about what they might be going through ?
I have known some who hate themselves so much that they have resorted to self harming.
Depression is an everyday unreadable disease. It hits all at some point of time. Some brave can face it alone , some need therapy, what about those endless who have no freaking idea what depression is , how to deal with it, how to control anxiety attacks ? How to control pessimism ? How to practice optimism ?
We have this idea that there wasn’t any need for awareness of such earlier and so it isn’t necessary now. But times have changed. Nuclear families, more of introverts, pressures work-personal- studies, phone addictions, personal interactions are less, comparisons , the picture of ideal role models dumped on you, etc.
People have different emotional quotient in them. Some deal with the extremes and some almost have none. This is serious. There are suicides rising on a large scale, most of them youngsters.
The psychological effect of things we say , do or talk about is unseen . No one knows what affects the person next to you drastically or what lingers on their mind. Humans are either sensitive or pretentious.
As adults, we know what to do with our lives, and how to not over-react to changing situations and control and manage through the gambles of life.
But what about kids ? At such an early age , instead of enjoying the simplicities of life, they are always on their toes to win everyone’s expectations for them, look presentable, get good grades, have the latest stuff (gadgets) , addictions to social media, attention seeking, etc.
They are basically seeking love, attention and they want someone to tell them that they are good enough. We dont see that.
It is really high time we give this a thought.
And try to help them LOVE THEMSELVES FIRST.
They need to learn to love themselves. BECAUSE they are losing themselves under the pressure of cruel expectations.
Self hatred , the feeling of not good enough, starts at home, school, college or workplace.
No kid deserves to be compared.
No kid has to go through the bully of being tagged by some cruel name or word.
How can you call someone in a degrading name ?
Does it make you feel superior world ?
Tell you what, you are cruel.
It’s the need of the hour to help youngsters accept themselves and be okay with what they are.