The thing about nagging people…

(Dedicated to a friend, who needs to remember and believe in one’s own awsomeness. We meet trying people in all stages and walks of life and some be like ………. read on.. )

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Have you come across such people who actually sway a hell lot. Like insult you and then cover it up with a chocolate syrup dressing saying , 

“Honey, dont be offended. You are not to take it seriously.”

I mean, seriously, how do you expect an insult to be taken sportingly as a joke when it was intended so perfectly to be an insult. That too, before a crowd of patronising fake people ?

It is bewildering to understand the outrageous behaviors of certain people sometimes. Especially when the insults are directed to such a person who needs to be appreciated and motivated. But naah! Some people just prefer the green monster instead.

I pay no attention to them. That’s what I say very often. But then , its difficult to go through trying situations and be disappointed and disheartened time and again.

Some people are just too full of sarcasm and criticism. There’s no point bickering with people who always speak to compete.

Life is more than pushing people down and proving that you are  superior, when in reality your efforts are hardly up to the mark.

Is it the jealousy? Is it ego ? Is it pride ? 

What exactly is it that triggers such behavior? 

I believe it’s a reflex action to something that bothers you deep.

If you are good, your actions shall speak for yourself and you will feel content but some  people will say and do things to make you lose your self confidence. That is their intention, isn’t  it ? To create self doubts and an inferiority complex and insecurities and that feeling of ‘not good enough’.

No matter how much we invest in certain people, it will never ever be good enough to make them appreciate you. 

Because sweetheart, there are such people out there who are insecure and intimidated by you or your goodness. Because you will find that they will always have a way to strangle your happy vibes. They will always have something to nag you about. They will monitor you so closely, so as to find your weaknesses and mistakes, and they will use it againts you each time you soar.

Believe me, I have certain friends. I never said close ones. Mind you. The first thing they say to me after we meet or speak after ages will never be something that will give me a smile. Instead I’d be left frowning and wondering why did I even bother to be polite or why did I even be friends with them .  They just tend to kill your vibe , pointing the many wrong things about you or your life.

Do you read what I read here ? Are you seeing what I’m trying to tell you ? They are making you focus on the “NEGATIVE “. They are manipulating your good energy and diverting it altogether into an opposite direction -direction of pessimistic notions. You are left drowning into the endless torture of self doubts. 

Do not believe everything they say. Do not focus on the unwanted. If you know yourself in and out, it will not bother you that much. Maybe what hurt would be that these things usually are from a  person you least expect . But then , thats what people do , they axe you in the back or face , if you become a threat to them. 

Why not in such times , remember that , they throw the blows in the wind , hoping you get punched in the guts, and you react just how they expect, on reflex. So instead stop taking what ain’t for you and let their blows hang in the wind. Let it have on you no impact. 

Believe in your self.

Accept the good. Ignore the bad. 

I know it is indeed very very  weird how some people get away with speaking ill about us and just because we are brought up in a good way, we can’t actually droop that low to  put them in their respective places. It’s our upbringing perhaps. Even then , that’s not something to blame but be proud of. 

Kindness is rare. And what’s even rare now a days is an appreciative tongue. 

Everywhere you see or hear is sarcasm, insulting innuendos and what not. And to find a kindred spirit is indeed a tortuous hunt amidst all this.

I’m no saint. We all somehow sometimes fall prey to our insecurities and act unwisely. But when realisation dawns, its best to be appreciative and make ammends.

Does it feel good by hurting others ?

Does it feel good pointing out the insecurities and rubbing it in their faces ?

Is it too much of an effort to be appreciative?

Does it cost a fortune to ignore the bad and appreciate the good in people ?

If you can’t boost other’s spirit, then dont crush it either . You have absolutely no right to be a bully. You have to atleast have some acceptable humanitarian quotient in you, to  not cross the line of untolerance. 

Is it difficult to shred away the layers of ego, pride , jealousy and see within our souls ?

God created human skins in varied colour tones , but the souls – they have the same colour. “

So as much as we all are invariably and extremely different from each other, we still have a soul. A spirit. 

Some people prefer being quiet when provoked, but believe me , you do not want these goodies to snap. It’s not gonna be much pretty then. 

If when you offer bitter , you still get the good offered. It’s a warning to change your flute and be good. Because if you push around the bitterness in you, then there will bound to be a time where only bitterness will await you.

We may become heartless and prove people that we lack feelings. But in the end it sums up to this :

“You give respect, you get respect. “

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